Wanting to do own hair and make up

retro:electro

Hello!
My sister is getting married in the summer and I am one of three bridesmaids. I am thrilled for her and excited but I haven't got the nerve to tell her that I want to do my own hair and make up for the event. I don't want to come across brattish to her and appear to be overly fussed about what I will look like on her day, but anytime I have gotten my make up done in the past I have hated it.

I'm alright at doing make up I'm never over done and people always say I do it well so I won't look a fright or anything, and as for my hair I like doing that myself too. Im worried she will get mad thinking I wont match the other two on the day, and I'm worried I'll come across like I'm trying to control things.

How do I go about this?

Dolbert

Ask if you can come along to the trial and get it done alongside her. Then, if you don't like it you can tell her that you'd rather do your own. Not all makeup artists are created equally however, you may just be surprised at how much you like it after all

With the hair, I think you really should just suck it up and get it done with the others. Bridal hair is done in a particular way to last the day and tbh, it would come across as a little controlling.

Midnight Sundance

Tbh I think you should suck it up. It's her day and I'm sure you won't look a fright. Bring some of your own make up to maybe add touches afterwards but you could end up standing out because your make up could look completely different to everyone else's. Maybe go on a trial first and let the make up lady know what does and doesn't work.
I'm notorious for hating my make up if done by anyone else, I did however make it clear to my BFF that I would wear it whatever way she wanted on her day. Turned out I was pretty happy for first time ever

Sligo1

Dolbert wrote: »

Ask if you can come along to the trial and get it done alongside her. Then, if you don't like it you can tell her that you'd rather do your own. Not all makeup artists are created equally however, you may just be surprised at how much you like it after all

With the hair, I think you really should just suck it up and get it done with the others. Bridal hair is done in a particular way to last the day and tbh, it would come across as a little controlling.

Totally agree with this. I was a bride last year and tbh the thoughts of having my makeup done professionally have me shivers! I thought it'd look awful because anytime ANYTIME anyone did my makeup it hardly lasted or looked terrible. I love the way I do my own makeup. I know what to cover up and what my good features are. Lol.

But anyways, I went and had a couple trials with a couple different makeup artists. And I did actually find one I LOVED! She was brilliant! Go along to the trials and discuss this with your sis and the makeup artist and see if you like what is on offer...

GarIT

Just talk to her about it. Looking the same as the other bridesmaids is probably important though, it isn't about how you look but how the bride thinks you look.

cmbutterfly45

I'd say just mention it as a possibility she might b delighted to have less costs! I'd be happy enough with it as I'd only want my bridesmaids to b comfy on the day once she knows u won't look a state, unless as previously said she wants you with the same hairstyles??

Boombastic

just ask her! I wouldn't have an issue with it and as another poster said she might be only too happy to keep costs down

Gatica

agree, mention it to the bride in passing, don't make a big deal and see her reaction. She may say she wants something specific or be delighted to have less expense...

retro:electro

Thanks guys! I will be seeing her later this week I'll mention it to her. She's pretty laid back so hopefully she won't mind, but of course if she does mind I'd go along with whatever she wanted, it is only one day after all!
Thanks for all the good advice!

Nicman

In fairness, I was bridesmaid a few times and got the hair and make up done and it was shocking. Some brides haven't a clue about decent hairdressers/ make up chicks. If you're happier to do it yourself ask her in a sort of diplomatic way. But maybe to aviod upsetting her tell her you'd rather do it yourself but don't want to upset her and if she'd prefer you to get it done you completely will (not worth falling out over).

endofrainbow

compromise - do your own make-up but agree to have your hair done professionally

Malari

Or bring the foundation you normally use and ask the make-up artist to put that on? At least then you know you'll have a normal looking skin tone.

Nicman

Malari wrote: »

Or bring the foundation you normally use and ask the make-up artist to put that on? At least then you know you'll have a normal looking skin tone.

Yeah i know people who have done that. I know what it's like - you don't know this person and afraid they're going ot make a mess of you but just really emphasise the look you want and as well what you really dont want. If you see a colour that doesn't float your boat tell her you don't want it. Ask can you have a look as you go along, sit in front of a mirror so that as soon as she does something you're not sure of you can stop her...

retro:electro

Thought I would post a little update to all those who gave me advice on this issue. I spoke to my sister about wanting to do my own make up and not only did she say it was fine she also asked me to do hers as well! As a result of this I am going to do a 6 week make up course to perfect any ability I may have! Very happy and excited.
As for the hair, she was thinking of us all having a simple up style which I am very happy about.
Thanks for all the advice!