stupid question, but anyway........

LegacyUser

met a guy on hols last week, hit it off, but we live in different ends of the country.....
but talked about meeting up when we get home since we got on so well.
I didn't see him on last night of holiday, so texted to say I really enjoyed his company, and would love to meet up when we get home, let me know if you're interested.
he replied he would ring when he got home. that was last Saturday..........

he was quite shy around me at first, but then very flirty as we got to know each other. he apologised quite a lot for being shy! but then seemed to be chatting to loooooads of people........lots of girls......

Am I wasting my time dropping him a text? and should I bother on Valentines day? At least if I drop him a text and see what the story is, I won't be hanging on and wondering!

not into mind games!

LegacyUser

second thoughts...........not texting on valentines day...........that is sad!

should I bother texting at all? I pretty much left the ball in his court..........

Flippyfloppy

makeyuppy wrote: »

met a guy on hols last week, hit it off, but we live in different ends of the country.....
but talked about meeting up when we get home since we got on so well.
I didn't see him on last night of holiday, so texted to say I really enjoyed his company, and would love to meet up when we get home, let me know if you're interested.
he replied he would ring when he got home. that was last Saturday..........

he was quite shy around me at first, but then very flirty as we got to know each other. he apologised quite a lot for being shy! but then seemed to be chatting to loooooads of people........lots of girls......

Am I wasting my time dropping him a text? and should I bother on Valentines day? At least if I drop him a text and see what the story is, I won't be hanging on and wondering!

not into mind games!

Well he's playing mind games & you left the ball firmly in his court.

Why didn't you see him last night of holidays?

My opinion is no, don't do it. you already attempted to arrange a meet up.

LegacyUser

Hi flippyfloppy,

thanks for your reply. I'll clarify, I actually did see him the last night, we were chatting, quite flirty, then he went to bathroom, I got chatting to some other people, and didn't see him after. He never approached me when I was chatting to others, only when I was on my own. I was the same with him though, I found it hard to cut in on conversation, being on the shy side myself. I did mention to the girls that I thought he mightn't be bothered, it being the last night and the fact that he didn't come over, but they said he kept looking over. I didn't want to make it look like I was overly invested so I didn't look myself! Gah! I know how stupid it all sounds. anyway, I think it's dead in the water, if he wanted to text, he probably would have. I'm hanging onto the fact that he seemed quite shy with me, genuinely shy. but then all chat with lots of other girls. I don't know. I hate the games! why can't people just tell it like it is?!

LegacyUser

He also mentioned having been in a long term long distance relationship, where he had made all the effort, wasn't reciprocated......... and I'm the same......distance is potentially a factor! clutching at straws......annoyed, he seemed so nice!

Tokyo

OP, honestly I'd write it off as a holiday romance, and try to keep the good memories from that. It's all too easy to say at that you will keep in touch, make it work, etc, but the fact of the matter is, when the holiday is over and real life has to kick in again, the cold light of day can put a different spin on things.

You put the ball firmly in is lap. He chose not to run with it. It's now been a week, I think it's time to move on.

Merkin

I think the ball is in his court OP so if he feels like getting in touch he will.

I'd say the distance could be a factor in his reluctance to do so, especially when he has already flagged it as being an issue previously. Not to worry, plenty more fish in the sea.

IrishEyes19

Flippyfloppy wrote: »

Well he's playing mind games & you left the ball firmly in his court.

Why didn't you see him last night of holidays?

My opinion is no, don't do it. you already attempted to arrange a meet up.

I really dont think he is playing mind games, sounds like it was a holiday fling and when he got home, he realised the distance was too much and to leave where it was. Secondly he could be in a relationship or just out of one, or hooked up with someone when he got back. I really dont think its mind games OP, or even you. It sounds like he weighed up the pros and cons of the situation and thought it wouldnt work. chalk it up to a great holiday and take that good feeling and invest it in someone new

Heat_Wave

I disagree with everyone else. What have you got to lose by sending a quick text (other than a bruised ego)? You both live in opposite ends of the country, you're hardly going to bump into him any time soon.

LegacyUser

thanks folks. I don't really think it's mind games either tbh. He did say on hols he wasn't into games, he was a very genuine person, that's what's so annoying! guys like that in my experience don't come around so often. I was a bit swept away by it all - I met him 2 years to the day since a big break up, and it's honestly the first time I've really felt like I could like someone again. I thought something had died inside me until last week! hence the reluctance to let go. I've done long distance too, it sounded like we were both the ones who carried the relationship in the past. meh..........doesn't matter now I guess.

So yeah, great memories, really glad I met him in that I know I'm not broken now! He was gas craic too. ugh!

heatwave, I'll admit that until I posted here, I was thinking along the same lines as you.......what have I got to lose? nothing really. But at the moment I'm thinking that his silence is speaking volumes. It kind of says it all really, do I really need it in writing? If I did send him a text now it would be purely for flirty entertainment value! I don't expect anything to come of it. Ego was feeling bruised up until yesterday, now I'm like meh.......there has been a strong reaction from all here though saying no! And any friends I've spoken to...........anytime I haven't listened in these situations, I've been burnt!