Should we give gift if not attending wedding?

Dinky22

Partner and I have been invited to a wedding but cannot attend. We were invited by a couple we are fairly frendly with whose son (who we have never met) is getting married. (1) Do we give a gift?. (2) If we should give a gift it would be cash and if so how much should we give?. Thanks for help.

Addle

Dinky22 wrote: »

Partner and I have been invited to a wedding but cannot attend. We were invited by a couple we are fairly frendly with whose son (who we have never met) is getting married. (1) Do we give a gift?. (2) If we should give a gift it would be cash and if so how much should we give?. Thanks for help.

If it was me, I'd give the same gift I'd give if I was going to the wedding.

Sadderday

I don't feel that is completely necessary in this instance as you haven't actually met the couple marrying.

I feel that a gift of frame or set of glasses would be perfect but of course if you think cash is better go with that.

It's nice of you to gift the couple - you haven't met them !!

smallerthanyou

If its someone's whose wedding I'm really sorry to miss I'll put fifty in a card with a nice thoughtful gift. If its invite from someone I don't know that well just a decline with regret.

Pistachios & cream

I'm getting married this year and if any of my parents friends couldn't make it i would not expect to get a gift. As a previous poster has said a small gift like a frame or a set of glasses is a nice gesture.

cmbutterfly45

I definitely wouldn't expect a gift from someone not going. Like one poster said if it was someone I was close with I would give a gift but Ive declined wedding invites before and not given gifts I don't think it's expected.

carolinespring

I would give a gift, as others said a frame, glasses or a 50 one4all voucher and a nice card.

sawdoubters

no I would not give a gift,i would not give money,but 50 euro should cover it

Gatica

It's a nice gesture to give something, but considering you don't know the people in question, just use your own best judgement and don't feel bad about declining and giving something small.

Teyla Emmagan

You have never met the couple, so I don't honestly think you need to give anything. But if you do a small token would be greatly appreciated I'm sure.

m'lady

I wouldn't expect a gift from anyone not going to my wedding, but as a previous poster suggested perhaps something small with a nice card?

Dinky22

Thanks you all very much for your input. I am most grateful. You have been most helpful.

tinkerbell

No, I wouldn't give a gift either - you don't even know the couple!

Arbiter of Good Taste

When we married we were shocked by the generosity of some people who did not come to the wedding. Not only people who were invited, but people who were not invited and whom we didn't know - mostly friends of our parents. We certainly did not expect anything, but very much appreciated the kind gestures.

Whilst probably not expected, it is a nice gesture and I would go so far as saying money or a voucher is always the best and is always the most appreciated.

Senna

Like the above, at the time of our wedding we didn't realise the amount of people that believe that if you get an invite you have to give a gift whether you are going or not.
I felt really bad about an old man and woman I invited, I knew they wouldn't go but I figured I would invited them just to be nice (they had helped me out a lot of the years) and of course they then went and bought me a really nice nest of tables. Now this couple are very well off, but I really felt bad when I realised the invite basically meant I wanted a present from them.

Mrs OBumble

All you nice people who would give a gift even though you don't know the couple - please PM me your address, I've a wedding invitation to send you!