Falling for someone at work

LegacyUser

I think I'm falling for a girl at work, I started working in a new company after Xmas and will be until September where il go back to uni and finial my degree. Everyone is really friendly and iv settled in quite well. There's a girl aged the same who is extremely friendly and has been since day one. We talk the whole time at work,she invites me to go for lunch the whole time,she even added me on Facebook and other social medians where literally we would talk till late most nights. She opened up a good bit here and in a way I did too.we got to know each other relatively well.At first I thought nothing of this,just that she was really sound more of a friend. Fast forward to a staff due where she kept asking me was I going etc,I wanted to enjoy my night and not be that guy trying it on with other work colleagues particularly as it was my first night out with the group. Low and behold a load of the work colleagues get on to me during the night saying how she's mad for me and fast forward we end up shifting for the whole night. Nothing else happend however we still talk as per normal.
I suppose the reason why I am here is that i don't really know what to do. We work in different departments with different teams. One part of me is saying slow the hell down,take it easy it was just a shift..
The other part is saying go for it!

As a person she is definitely my type, personality wise ,great craic and she's a natural beaut

Sorry for the long message but I'm looking forward to any suggestions

Darren 83

I would ask her out at least then you will know how she feels which seems very obvious she likes you.

Personal I'd rather get a no than wondering what if?

Best of luck OP

Meauldsegosha

Normally I would say stay well clear of office romances as they rarely work out. But as you will only be there until Sept is say go for it. It's obvious she likes you and you like her.

iusedtoknow

At least your thinking it through, and tbh...a shift is rarely just a shift, no matter how much many people protest. She seems to like you, and you like her back..so there is little stopping you except (am putting on my manager's hat here)....

Even though you're only there till september, I would take a look at anything internal you can find - you may (and I underline MAY) need to talk to HR about it once you are going out. Many companies have no problem with inter-office relationships, but still need to know. On my previous team, two went out (granted they were on the same team). There were no issues, and they are very happy together - however I still needed to be officially informed incase there were any issues.

Merkin

Life is too short! Go for it, it sounds like you both have built up a nice little friendship and now you've established that there is great chemistry too - result. Go for it

ManOfMystery

Some people fall for someone but are never brave enough to follow it up as they are unsure how the other person feels. You're in a lucky situation where the girl has given you clear signs that she's really into you, so IMO you should ask her out.

I got friendly with a girl in work once, in similar circumstances ........................ we're now married with a 6mth old boy. Go for it!

Brego888

I think going out with someone you work with is generally best avoided of possible due to the result if things don't work out. Having said that you can't help who you fall for. And it's not a full time job. I'd say go for it.

Tokyo

Ask her out. Just remember to keep the love life (if it works out) or the drama(if it doesn't) away from the workplace. You might be finishing up in September, but she has to continue to work there.....

Ham Sambo

The way I would approach this is simple, don't know if you drive a car or not but if you do approach it like you were driving on an icy road, move off in first gear then progress to second gear, third gear etc, if for any reason you start go into a slide along the road then put the brakes on and stop driving, however if you enjoy the ride and are in fifth gear then you are cruising!! In other words approach with caution and take it steady!! and if you are not a confident driver then make sure to display an L plate then she will know that you are still a learner!! best of luck! :-)

Virgil°

You are there temporarily(if it goes pear shaped the awkwardness is temporary). You work in different departments, which I assume means you aren't spending every waking minute in each others company.

It is patently obvious this girl likes you and has done for a while now.
I literally cannot think of a good reason not to go for this OP. Ask her out now.
That is, if you want to?

LegacyUser

Op here,
Hey guys thanks for the advice,im generally fine with women and never shy or confused about making the moves.
This girl is different.I'm going to see how things develope,partially because she was in an accident this week and will out of office for awhile.as I said we chat the whole time,we talked until 2.30 last night and it's not even me who keeps it going or even start the conversations. I don't want to come accross as obsessive or anything so I'm going to take it easy.
Once again thanks very much for the advice