Wedding day worry

macca.86

Hi
Me and my fiancé want to get married late summer or Sept 14. We had a venue provisionally booked. Unfortunately we went to see the venue this wknd before a wedding party arrived and wer so horrified at what we saw (dirty/unvacuumed carpets, dirty windows, cold, no nice decorations) was so different to what we experienced on our first visit! I was in such a panic to find somewhere and Was feeling so disheartened until we came across somewhere that we can afford, holds the numbers we need and has so much character warmth and atmosphere! The thing is they only have Monday 25august this year free!! All thurs, fri, sat are booked up! So my question is.. Is a Monday a terrible day to get married? I know I probably shouldnt care what people think and if someone is close enough to us they will come but I can't help worrying!! Opinions would be much appreciated!

Cucking Funt

macca.86 wrote: »

Hi
Me and my fiancé want to get married late summer or Sept 14. We had a venue provisionally booked. Unfortunately we went to see the venue this wknd before a wedding party arrived and wer so horrified at what we saw (dirty/unvacuumed carpets, dirty windows, cold, no nice decorations) was so different to what we experienced on our first visit! I was in such a panic to find somewhere and Was feeling so disheartened until we came across somewhere that we can afford, holds the numbers we need and has so much character warmth and atmosphere! The thing is they only have Monday 25august this year free!! All thurs, fri, sat are booked up! So my question is.. Is a Monday a terrible day to get married? I know I probably shouldnt care what people think and if someone is close enough to us they will come but I can't help worrying!! Opinions would be much appreciated!

Its a ****e day to get married

dpofloinn

That depends do you intend to have guests at your wedding? If not then monday is grand however if you plan on having guests at your wedding then its a f**king disaster of a day to get married.As for the origional hotel maybe the wedding party wanted a no frills wedding and did not want to pay for decoration, chair covers,silver service etc

dobman88

I work in a hotel and when we do have weddings on a midweek day, they are usually small affairs with no more than 50 people. i think asking 200+ people to take a Monday and possibly Tuesday off work probably isn't fair on them. Thursday is becoming more popular with people for big weddings but not midweek.

Would Sunday be an option for you? That way, some people only have to ake the Monday off work which isn't so bad.

Senna

How is a Thursday any different to a Monday? If guests have to travel the night before, then a Monday is better than a Thursday.
OP would you consider later in the year?



Not aimed at you OP, but I don't know what's the fascination with Summer weddings here in Ireland, you could get just as nice (or bad) a day in any month with our weather.

dobman88

I only said Thursday was becoming popular, based on my work experiences, not that it is better than Monday. Thursday is probably the worst day to have it because people could feel pressured to "make a weekend of it", which adds to the expense.

Sunday sounds like the best solution to your situation. Most people are off weekends and if travel is involved only have to take the 1 day off work.

whiskeyman

dobman88 wrote: »

I only said Thursday was becoming popular, based on my work experiences, not that it is better than Monday. Thursday is probably the worst day to have it because people could feel pressured to "make a weekend of it", which adds to the expense.

Sunday sounds like the best solution to your situation. Most people are off weekends and if travel is involved only have to take the 1 day off work.

Not many churches allow weddings on a Sunday.
Most dioscese have it against their policies as far as I know.

snickerpuss

whiskeyman wrote: »

Not many churches allow weddings on a Sunday.
Most dioscese have it against their policies as far as I know.

Humanists will marry you on a Sunday if people fancy a civil/secular ceremony.

eyescreamcone

snickerpuss wrote: »

Humanists will marry you on a Sunday if people fancy a civil/secular ceremony.

We considered a Sunday of a bank holiday weekend - as good as any Saturday!

almorris

Check out the original venue again and ask for references from other couples. What time of day was it when you went back? Possibly the venue hadn't the staff in for cleaning when you went back? Heating cost's might have meant only turning the heating on prior to the arrival of the guest's etc. Don't jump to soon, if it was good enough on your first visit, liaise with the wedding planner to make sure the venue will look how you want it to be.

As for Sunday weddings, Kilmainham Woods in Co. Meath is a go and some Church's in Co. Cavan. Not much help i know if your in Kerry etc.

rainbow kirby

That particular date would be disproportionately good if you have guests travelling from the UK (bank holiday weekend), but crap otherwise.

Addle

Get married whenever you want, but just don't feel entitled to be disappointed when prospective guests decline your invite.

Moonbeam

Some kids will be back in school Monday the 25th of AUgust so that makes it even worse.
I think Monday is a terrible day for a wedding but if it is where you want and what you want then you should go for it.
For me if I was having the big wedding I would rather people could make it rather then have my 1st choice venue,though I also wanted to just to get married and leave it at that:)

Gatica

Monday is not the most convenient day for your guests, but if that's all that's available to you and you're planning on smaller/intimate affair, then go for it. Like you said, those to whom it matters most will be there. Just don't expect a >200 guest turn-out.

December2012

If I were you OP I would contact the hotel and point out your concerns.

Maybe the decorations were discounted to make that wedding more affordable?

Ask the hotel why was it as bad as you think.

And consider other things - service, food, bar, bedrooms, etc.

It still may be your better option than a Monday.

Gatica

The other couple may have cut out the frills, but surely the hotel could hoover the floor?
But as almorris said, maybe at the time you visited they just hadn't got around to doing the finishing touches.