Beingexcluded at work

Hannaho

Hi! I started a new job in September. There were two of us in the Department, but there are now three of us. Initially, all was great - I got on great with the other girl, and with the new girl when we started. However, now, although there has been no issue, row, harsh words etc. - the other two girls are working together all the time, going to tea together, making plans for the Department together, telling me to go home when my work is done, though they don't leave until it's time to go. The office is tiny so I've just let it go. Has anybody got any coping strategies that don't involve confrontation as they will just deny it all - I'm trying detachment and ignoring at the moment, but it's difficult to do this all of the time. Any advice/comments really welcome.

blatantrereg

Three is a bad number for a group exactly because things like this happen very often. Even if things do change, it will most likely be one of the others being the one excluded. Four is a good number for a group because you can swap lines of engagement and talking to someone individually doesn't leave anyone as the odd one out.

December2012

Are they over you on work? On what authority are they making department decisions or allowing you to leave work early?

Ham Sambo

First of all what you should do is to make written note of the conversations they have with you, what time date these conversations took place and who witnessed the events. They have no right to exclude you from everyday work in the office unless it is not part of your job description. this is bordering on 'Workplace Bullying' and should not be tolerated. Have a quite word with their superiors and take it from there.

beauf

Could you invite them to go for coffee/tea with you and stay the same time as them. If you are always there they'll have to include you.