Valentine's Gift dilemma

LegacyUser

Hi good people on boards I was wondering if you could help me.

I'm going out with my boyfriend for four years and we are both aged 25. Our relationship has its ups and downs but in general we get on great and love each other very much. My problem is each Valentine's day I struggle to think of romantic gift ideas for him. I asked him to give me a few hints as to what he'd like but he said he didn't know. He's always been a fussy person to buy for as in he generally tells me what he does not want to get as opposed to what he would like.

I've bought him practical things before such as clothes, things for his car etc... However this year I would love to surprise him with something that would make his heart melt to show him how much he means to me. Any suggestions would be most welcome and thanks in advance.

Tasden

FIFI 2014 wrote: »

I've bought him practical things before such as clothes, things for his car etc... However this year I would love to surprise him with something that would make his heart melt to show him how much he means to me. Any suggestions would be most welcome and thanks in advance.

Tbh the best way of doing this is to make it something personal... which we obviously can't advise you on. But maybe just get something small or practical as a gift but then cook his favorite meal, get some beers/weed/wine whatever he likes and play his fave video games/watch his fave movie together for the night, and then wear some nice undergarments for after Sometimes its the small things rather than actual physical gifts if you get me?

Its generally the thought that matters for people and since we don't know your boyfriend its hard to say what would be special to him. Also sometimes the best present is just saying "listen we really don't have to do all that valentines day stuff this year" :pac: I always appreciate that one so I regularly give it as a gift!

Or you could give him his card and gift early so that it actually is a surprise and so that he doesn't have to wait til valentines day to be spoiled. Might ruin the actual day if you're into all that but its nice to spoil someone on a day that you're not "obliged" to.

Matteroffact

Not surprised you are having problems thinking of a gift for Valentine's Day if you are trying to come up with special gifts every year. All that is required is for you both to go out for a meal or have a meal in, cards, chocolates maybe and that's it. Put an end to this nonsense now or you will be in this predicament every year.:D

LegacyUser

"Sometimes its the small things rather than actual physical gifts if you get me?"

Thanks Tasden, I agree with you there. I think maybe it's time to give your suggestion a try. Maybe if I plan a couple of small things he might appreciate the thought and effort that went into those rather than a big surprise.

sparkle109

Valentines day is overrated, why don't you keep it simple this year. A card, cook dinner and maybe spend what you both would have spent on tickets or an evening out somewhere! Its the thought and effort put in to small things sometimes, anyone can go and buy a meaningless present etc!

fungun

instead of a present why dont you give him a pampering night or something.....maybe cook him his favourite dinner wearing some lingerie.....massage afterwards (you could buy him a dressing gown as part of it as a gift).....then his choice!

LegacyUser

OP, I'll let you in on a little secret, guys don't regard Valentine's Day as anything other than a nuisance. We hate the blood thing, for what it has become, an effort to try to embarrass people into doing something they do not want to do. It is nothing other than a Marketing effort to get money out of people by embarrassment.

Buy something heart-felt for Valentine's Day and its effect will be diluted. Buy it on a non-occasion and it will mean so much more.

If you want to commemorate the day, then do something together but do save the special gift for another time?

Loughc

fungun wrote: »

instead of a present why dont you give him a pampering night or something.....maybe cook him his favourite dinner wearing some lingerie.....massage afterwards

This, is a really good idea, I'm a guy and I'd would love it if my gf did this over any cheezy tacy present, much more intimate, romantic and fun.

ShaShaBear

Have to agree with a previous poster here. If you wanted to buy him something special, just buy it. Why wait for Valentine's Day, when the first thing that comes into anyone's head is "Oh, that's sweet, but would you have bothered if it was any other day?".

I used to hate it as a woman. Partners taking me out for romantic dinners once a year. Always Valentine's Day. If you were really hell-bent on treating me to something special and romantic, you'd do it all year round, not the same day of the year that everyone is doing it!

Zen 2nd

If it was me I'd love to go see The Lego Movie

Each person is different but if you are really into each other a big expression of love is not required. Keep it simple.