Selfies

bogwalrus

I have a load of friends (mainly women) constantly posting selfies on Facebook not in any humerous or "hey look at my lovely new dress" sort of way but just a pic......of them.......with no heading or nothing???. This one friend who is really cool and sound has a pic up almost every two days and then loads of her friends comment "looking great beeebz". Is this some sort of insecurity/attention seeking sort of thing. Can someone explain to me what the f is going on?

Ps. I just noticed posting on AH is probably the same as posting a selfie for no reason. Just attention seeking eh?

Chazz Michael Michaels

bogwalrus wrote: »

I have a load of friends (mainly women) constantly posting selfies on Facebook not in any humerous or "hey look at my lovely new dress" sort of way but just a pic......of them.......with no heading or nothing???. This one friend who is really cool and sound has a pic up almost every two days and then loads of her friends comment "looking great beeebz". Is this some sort of insecurity/attention seeking sort of thing. Can someone explain to me what the f is going on?

Ps. I just noticed posting on AH is probably the same as posting a selfie for no reason. Just attention seeking eh?

Its narcissism.

donspeekinglesh

Get new friends.

Napper Hawkins

Yes.

December2012

Nothing wrong with some people who do it because they are confident.

Not everybody who highlights their appearance is insecure or a thanks whore.

Mickeroo

It's just narcissism, plain and simple. The real mystery is the whole duckface thing.

joeperry

And hardly anyone tells the truth on facebook. You look bloody awful and stuff like that. No its looking hot girl or some ****e like that.

Narcissism is a fairly strong word to use for people who throw up a few pics of themselves on Facebook in fairness. Vain perhaps, but hardly narcissistic!!

bogwalrus

So narcissism is not obvious to the person being narcissistic?

Also I really don't think it has anything to do with confidence. What has posting a pic got to do with that?

lau1247

December2012 wrote: »

Nothing wrong with some people who do it because they are confident.

Not everybody who highlights their appearance is insecure or a thanks whore.

Sure they are (maybe not all but almost all). If they are not attention seeking, who are they for?? Why even go through the hassle of posting it for all to see?? If they are not attention seeking it would just be stored on their own phone/pc/camera

Boom_Bap

The funny thing about the selfie, where one posts a picture of themselves and captions it a selfie, where the photo is clearly not taken by the self.

Chazz Michael Michaels

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Narcissism is a fairly strong word to use for people who throw up a few pics of themselves on Facebook in fairness. Vain perhaps, but hardly narcissistic!!

Wikipedia has a nice definition that I think applies to selfies, my emphasis applied.

Narcissism is a term that originated with Narcissus in Greek mythology who fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. Currently it is used to describe *the pursuit of gratification from vanity*, or egotistic admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, that derive from arrogant pride.

December2012

lau1247 wrote: »

Sure they are (maybe not all but almost all). If they are not attention seeking, who are they for?? Why even go through the hassle of posting it for all to see?? If they are not attention seeking it would just be stored on their own phone/pc/camera

I didn't say it wasn't attention seeking.

Some do it for pride.

Nothing wrong with bring proud of yourself and showing off. People do it all the time.

bogwalrus

Pride is something you have. You don't express pride surely? The act of posting a selfie on FB has to stem from some sort of attention seeking and vanity.

I can imagine the thought process is as follows. "Oh my I look good in the mirror, now to show all my friends so they can agree with how lovely I look". Cue the friends that will never tell the truth.

kneemos

Three hours in the bathroom you gotta show someone.

Peter Tork

In my day a selfie was something you did after buying a copy of H&E.

Nothing wrong with selfies* unless you are doing them at a concert in the middle of a song.

I am talking about the new meaning of the word now.

Oryx

December2012 wrote: »

I didn't say it wasn't attention seeking.

Some do it for pride.

Nothing wrong with bring proud of yourself and showing off. People do it all the time.

Theres something wrong with the need to seek approval for your looks.

sadie06

I left Facebook (again)* this week, because I cannot stomach the constant flow of blatant attention seeking posts and selfies. It does my head in!

Map My ****ing Run is a new one that's getting to me also. Map it by all means, but don't share it, three times a week! Then there's the mother who I know to be stressed to near breaking point in real life giving the impression of family bliss through her documentation of every single activity with her kids, accompanied by photos. Does child safety not come into the mind of anyone posting photos of their children and location specific information on the internet?

Then there is the misery porn, the food porn......I HATE facebook!


* Don't want to derail the thread, but it's becoming increasingly difficult to not be a member. Two of the activities my children are involved with only post updates and extra info on their facebook page. One actually puts youtube videos for the children to learn from on the page. :mad:

Oryx

Set up a dummy account to access those idiot companies that only communicate via fb

You'll escape all the mugshots

sadie06

Oryx wrote: »

Set up a dummy account to access those idiot companies that only communicate via fb

You'll escape all the mugshots

I just might do that!

lukesmom

Selfies I can take but the duck lips look shockingly stupid.

Another more worrying trend has emerged. It involves a boy or girl from preteen up to about 17. They say 'like for Ho'. So whoever clicks 'like ' in this status the op will make, star in and release to Facebook a video documenting how long they know the person, what memories they share etc. they begin the video with ' h o for (insert name) it's cringeworthy. I found out this week that h o stands for 'holler out' kids are so incredibly dumb these days I'm sad to say

December2012

But showing pride in your looks or what you're doing is not the same as seeking approval.

zanador

lukesmom wrote: »

Selfies I can take but the duck lips look shockingly stupid.

Another more worrying trend has emerged. It involves a boy or girl from preteen up to about 17. They say 'like for Ho'. So whoever clicks 'like ' in this status the op will make, star in and release to Facebook a video documenting how long they know the person, what memories they share etc. they begin the video with ' h o for (insert name) it's cringeworthy. I found out this week that h o stands for 'holler out' kids are so incredibly dumb these days I'm sad to say

I am just so glad that when I was a teenager there was no such thing as Facebook!

Teens have always been narcissistic - it's part of discovering one's self identity. We were as bad!

Oryx

December2012 wrote: »

But showing pride in your looks or what you're doing is not the same as seeking approval.

Posting a selfie on fb is the same as going out in the street and yelling 'LIKE ME, LIKE ME PLEASE! I NEED YOUR FAKE APPRECIATION AND ADMIRATION TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF!'

pajor

According to the BBC (can't find the article) it's been proved that selfies are good for mental health..

kneemos

pajor wrote: »

According to the BBC (can't find the article) it's been proved that selfies are good for mental health..

Everyone else suffers.

Ficheall

You could always comment on the selfies with "Nice one, I jacked off twice to this..." or similar.

It'd probably solve the problem one way or another.

whirlpool

bogwalrus wrote: »

I have a load of friends (mainly women) constantly posting selfies on Facebook not in any humerous or "hey look at my lovely new dress" sort of way but just a pic......of them.......with no heading or nothing???. This one friend who is really cool and sound has a pic up almost every two days and then loads of her friends comment "looking great beeebz". Is this some sort of insecurity/attention seeking sort of thing. Can someone explain to me what the f is going on?

Ps. I just noticed posting on AH is probably the same as posting a selfie for no reason. Just attention seeking eh?

Yes.

whirlpool

pajor wrote: »

According to the BBC (can't find the article) it's been proved that selfies are good for mental health..

Well there you go. They temporarily alleviate insecurities. Definitely.

MadsL

Mickeroo wrote: »

It's just narcissism, plain and simple. The real mystery is the whole duckface thing.

I find the anti-duckface thing weirder. My teen spends any spare moment snapchatting pics of herself pulling ugly faces, she seem incapable of posting a simple normal pic of herself.

Baffles me.

At least she's not throwing gang signs I suppose...