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Cross dressing phobia

  • 31-01-2014 11:29pm
    #1
    oscar_mike
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 160 ✭✭


    Hi Guys, i just wanted to run something by everyone as i am not sure if you could classify this as a phobia or not. Anyhow, recently at a house party and unbeknownst to me, two of my friends had invited out two of their cross dressing friends. This was not a problem for most of us as another group member is gay and we are all big supporters of LGBT.

    My problem, and to my surprise i found that when in the company of the cross dressers i became very agitated, had sweaty palms and i just couldn't bare looking at them and kept my distance. I was of course polite and respectful.

    I dont understant it, they were sound guys, very open minded, offered me some of their drink and generally were great craic yet i just couldn't face interacting with them. As a result i didnt enjoy the house party as much as i usually would.

    Has any1 had any similar experiences?


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  • #2
    incognito12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20 ✭incognito12


    Hi Oscar!!!

    I was just passing through threads on this to kill time and came across yours and was instantly drawn to it, as I to have had a similar experience with members of the cross dressing community in the past. I don't know what it is, but there's something about been in the presence of these sort of people that weirds me out and confuses me. I like to think I'm a pretty open minded person but just feel very uncomfortable around cross dressers, like my social side of my brain completely shuts of as if something inside me is subconsciously saying "don't thrust these people, back away" and I just come off as impolite and hostile like it's a evolutionary reflex causing me to revert to a caveman mindset.


  • #3
    oscar_mike
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 160 ✭✭oscar_mike


    Interesting.... you pretty much summed up how i felt that night at the house party, and i am generally a very tolerant and open minded individual. Do you think its actually possible to have a phobia, or at least some sort of social paralysis when one encounters these sort of people?

    Obviously i don't think these are rational thoughts as i have no doubt cross dressers are decent people and their is nothing inherently wrong with men who like to pretend they are female.


  • #4
    incognito12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20 ✭incognito12


    Yes i do think it is a form of social paralysis which is brought on by the individual's inability to accept the situation that their presented with, in this case cross-dressing. I've no beef with cross dressers as people, I'm sure their quite genuine as people go. It's like when I imagine two men who are in a committed relationship and which to express their emotions for one another physically, my mind just does not want to know of this. It's even worse when your out in public and witness guys kissing, because you refuse to except the situation you just end up coming across as homophobic....


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