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Directionless - too much freedom?

  • 26-01-2014 12:33pm
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    LegacyUser
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    I am not really sure where to start...

    I am mid-30s female. For as long as I can remember, I dont seem to believe in marriage or happy endings. I've been through alot myself regarding relationships and seen alot of things happen people too. My conclusion (so far) is that 2 people cannot live/be together for 10/20 years/life without something changing (physically or emotionally). I dont get why people would want to stay in a relationship when they are unhappy.

    (it is only my point of view - Im sure there will be opinions to the contrary, but please remember, I havent experienced what you have)

    I am well aware that maybe I just havent met the right person that I feel I could spend the rest of my life with. With regards children, I never had an urge to have them. I always thought if/when the above happened, maybe Id want them then.

    Everyone elses lives seem to be filled with marriage and kids. Something I dont seem to believe in, and something that may not happen me, and something I may not want.

    The biggest problem is that I dont know what the heck I want. Feel at bit lost/excluded as most people my age are all about the above. I have a full time (good) job. But other than that, am foot loose and fancy free. I love adventure. But right now, I feel completely stuck. Ive no idea what to do. Am trying to get some direction, but its almost like Ive too much freedom. Too much freedom, a want for adventure/something different = no idea what to do.

    On my most recent travels I hooked up with a guy Id known for 2 years previously. Always had a gra for him. And in my mind, this was going to be the next big adventure. I liked him enough (and the country) to move there (for 6 months to a year in the beginning-see how we'd get on/develop). But in the end, he changed his mind. One of the big things in his mind was, based on my past, how did he know that in 6/12 months I wouldnt change my mind about him. I couldnt answer that question. I really have strong/loving feelings towards him, but I have to let it go.

    Has/does anyone else out there feel like this?


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