Contact after meeting

CoolLinen

What's an acceptable time to wait for a guy to text after meeting him?

Tokyo

Depends what you mean by "meeting him"??

If it was a guy you spent time with and got along with, he took your number with the intent of meeting up again or going out, then a few days, easy.....

CoolLinen

mike_ie wrote: »

Depends what you mean by "meeting him"??

If it was a guy you spent time with and got along with, he took your number with the intent of meeting up again or going out, then a few days, easy.....

I met him in a pub and spent the night talking to him, got on really well, he said he would like to see me again and took my number. That was 4 days ago

Tokyo

CoolLinen wrote: »

I met him in a pub and spent the night talking to him, got on really well, he said he would like to see me again and took my number. That was 4 days ago

Did you get his number? If you did, then there's nothing wrong with dropping him a message yourself....

If you didn't, then I wouldn't worry too much just yet. He may very well text on the next night he's out to see if you are around.

Having said that, I wouldn't be sitting at home either, checking the phone every five minutes, hoping that he calls. Live your life as you normally would, if he's going to text, he'll text....

CoolLinen

mike_ie wrote: »

Did you get his number? If you did, then there's nothing wrong with dropping him a message yourself....

If you didn't, then I wouldn't worry too much just yet. He may very well text on the next night he's out to see if you are around.

Having said that, I wouldn't be sitting at home either, checking the phone every five minutes, hoping that he calls. Live your life as you normally would, if he's going to text, he'll text....

No I didnt take his number. If he was interested would he not have made contact before the weekend....thanks for the reply....

Tokyo

CoolLinen wrote: »

No I didnt take his number. If he was interested would he not have made contact before the weekend....thanks for the reply....

Maybe, or maybe he works weekends or has other things going on. 4 days isn't a long time in the greater scheme of things. Nobody is going to be able to give you a definitive yes or no, only tell you that there are a multitude of possible scenarios

CoolLinen

mike_ie wrote: »

Maybe, or maybe he works weekends or has other things going on. 4 days isn't a long time in the greater scheme of things. Nobody is going to be able to give you a definitive yes or no, only tell you that there are a multitude of possible scenarios

He could work weekends I'm not sure. I thought if he was interested he would have made contact by now. Waiting game.

CaraMay

CoolLinen wrote: »

No I didnt take his number. If he was interested would he not have made contact before the weekend....thanks for the reply....

I kind of agree. I would have thought if he were interested that he would have been on by now

scarymoon1

I met a guy out once and he got chatting to me. He asked for my number and i said to him I'm not giving it to you unless you really want it and will use it!! He assured me he wanted it and kept asking - I gave it to him. And alas he didn't text. Some guys are pigs and just want ego boosts -
they just collect girls numbers and don't use them!

CoolLinen

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I met a guy out once and he got chatting to me. He asked for my number and i said to him I'm not giving it to you unless you really want it and will use it!! He assured me he wanted it and kept asking - I gave it to him. And alas he didn't text. Some guys are pigs and just want ego boosts -
they just collect girls numbers and don't use them!

I won't be expecting to hear from him so. Thanks for the replies.

scarymoon1

CoolLinen wrote: »

I won't be expecting to hear from him so. Thanks for the replies.

Well never say never - he could! I'm just saying what happened to me. I hope for your sake he does - maybe he's playing it cool

Dellnum

Yes, I would have expected him to be in touch before now and especially as the weekend was coming up. No matter how busy he was he should have sent you a text just to see if you were still interested. I would forget about him. I wonder could he have lost your number? If he took it down on his phone then there is no excuse.

CoolLinen

Dellnum wrote: »

Yes, I would have expected him to be in touch before now and especially as the weekend was coming up. No matter how busy he was he should have sent you a text just to see if you were still interested. I would forget about him. I wonder could he have lost your number? If he took it down on his phone then there is no excuse.

I also thought since it's Saturday night I would have got a text to show he is interested. You are right there is no excuse he has my number because I gave it to him.

I hate people who think, "oh, I should wait a few days before making contact". If you really enjoyed meeting and chatting to this person, then contact them the next hour, the next day - but don't wait a whole week or whatever as some form of mind game, which is essentially what this rubbish boils down to. If the person actually liked spending time with you, was interested in you, and whatever else, then they won't care and will actually like it. If they don't reply, then you've got your answer without waiting a week to find out.

This goes for both guys and women.

CoolLinen

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I hate people who think, "oh, I should wait a few days before making contact". If you really enjoyed meeting and chatting to this person, then contact them the next hour, the next day - but don't wait a whole week or whatever as some form of mind game, which is essentially what this rubbish boils down to. If the person actually liked spending time with you, was interested in you, and whatever else, then they won't care and will actually like it. If they don't reply, then you've got your answer without waiting a week to find out.

This goes for both guys and women.

I would have heard by now so. Thanks.
Unfortunately I don't have his number so I can't contact him. He probably would have if he was interested anyway.....

How did you exchange phone numbers? Was it written down or manually typed into his phone? If it was written down, then he could have lost it, or numerous other things. However, if it was typed into his phone, then he could have lost his phone or it broke or numerous other things. It might not just be "he wasn't interested". Just knock this one down to not being sure and possibly consider getting the guy's number next time, instead of entirely relying on him to make contact.

CoolLinen

[Deleted User] wrote: »

How did you exchange phone numbers? Was it written down or manually typed into his phone? If it was written down, then he could have lost it, or numerous other things. However, if it was typed into his phone, then he could have lost his phone or it broke or numerous other things. It might not just be "he wasn't interested". Just knock this one down to not being sure and possibly consider getting the guy's number next time, instead of entirely relying on him to make contact.

He typed my number into his phone and was the correct number. It would be a bit far fetched to think he lost his phone. Other ways to find people.....I'll have to do what you said and put it down to experience and move on.....Shame when it's somebody you think you clicked with....

Dellnum

Next time you are giving a guy your number ask him for his first and then ring him there and then with yours and then you will be sure he got the right number. Is there any chance you might bump into him again in the same place?

CoolLinen

Dellnum wrote: »

Next time you are giving a guy your number ask him for his first and then ring him there and then with yours and then you will be sure he got the right number. Is there any chance you might bump into him again in the same place?

He got the right number definitely. No I don't think ill bump into him there again. 5 days have passed and a weekend so that probably shows lack of interest.

Merkin

I'd forget about him. Disappointing that he hasn't touched base but just chalk it down and move on OP.

amtc

I was out two weeks ago and gave this guy the ability to contact me (rather than my number) and i got a text at 3am last Weds 'I've no credit, please call me'. I didn't know the number (not sure how he found mine, but did say where I worked) and was asleep, so I texted back Thurs - who are you - got his name and did I fancy a drink at 2am that night. Straight delete....

...Older I get - if they want to call (NOT TEXT) they will!

CoolLinen

amtc wrote: »

I was out two weeks ago and gave this guy the ability to contact me (rather than my number) and i got a text at 3am last Weds 'I've no credit, please call me'. I didn't know the number (not sure how he found mine, but did say where I worked) and was asleep, so I texted back Thurs - who are you - got his name and did I fancy a drink at 2am that night. Straight delete....

...Older I get - if they want to call (NOT TEXT) they will!

2am! I would delete them too.
Yes if they wanted to contact they would.
Thanks

LegacyUser

CoolLinen, you never know he may have had a girlfriend and was just leading you on.
There are a million reasons guys don't get in touch and not a lot are about you. So don't take it personally.

I'm reading a great book on dating at the moment (I don't want to say what it is, it's an e-book and don't want it to look as I'm shilling) and it offers some great advice.

Basically it says to not fixate on one guy, keep your options open, even when you meet a guy that you click with. There's nothing to say you could date someone else, while you were waiting on such-and-such a guy to call.

This way you won't be too upset, when the guy doesn't call, and you won't be needy if he does call.
The book also says to fill your life with lots of interesting things, people and hobbies. Don't be fixated on meeting someone. That way you won't be too disappointed if it doesn't work out - you already have a fabulous life without him!