Bi Guy.... Does Dublin have a place us?

genlad28

Bi single guy here, (closet "bi" by the way )

Without getting into preferences.....From my experience I believe Dublin is not a bi friendly place....you are either straight or gay. Is there a space for those who are not ready to announce their sexual tendencies yet still have some fun and meet similar people? Is there anyone out there who lives an openly Bi lifestyle? If so where do you find others with similar interests? How have those closest to you reacted when they found out? Besides the cesspit's of "cra^gslist" or "gay%ar' Is there any places in this city to meet other Bi lads? Unfortunately I am not into sauna's or gay bars, not that there is anything wrong with them, just that I have tried them and its not my scene...... This may be a cliche but this is a genuine thread.

Would like to know of any experiences some bi LGBI boarders have had finding happiness and if you have any advice?

floggg

genlad28 wrote: »

Bi single guy here, (closet "bi" by the way )

Without getting into preferences.....From my experience I believe Dublin is not a bi friendly place....you are either straight or gay. Is there a space for those who are not ready to announce their sexual tendencies yet still have some fun and meet similar people? Is there anyone out there who lives an openly Bi lifestyle? If so where do you find others with similar interests? How have those closest to you reacted when they found out? Besides the cesspit's of "cra^gslist" or "gay%ar' Is there any places in this city to meet other Bi lads? Unfortunately I am not into sauna's or gay bars, not that there is anything wrong with them, just that I have tried them and its not my scene...... This may be a cliche but this is a genuine thread.

Would like to know of any experiences some bi LGBI boarders have had finding happiness and if you have any advice?

Why can't you meet gay lads?

ronaneire

genlad28 wrote: »

bi LGBI

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AerynSun

genlad28 wrote: »

you are either straight or gay

I think there are three (maybe four) issues getting confused here: 1) you are either out or in the closet; 2) you are either straight or gay or bisexual; and 3) you are either looking for something 'real' or just casual encounters. (and maybe 4) are you into monogamy or polyamory?)

From my perspective, if you're in the closet but 'looking to have a bit of fun', then it's not unheard of that people could think you're messing with them... and that's when the doubts about your sexuality surface: are you straight, then go away and leave us alone... or, if you're gay and looking for something real, then do yourself a favour and own your sexuality and don't be going back home to your straight life the next day.

Being bisexual is complicated, as you know. It's not easy to deal with the confusion that can go with the fluidity of being attracted to both sexes. But I think it helps if you're able to be openly bisexual and clear about what kind of attachments you're looking for (or not looking for, as the case may be).

playedalive

Hi OP. Your OP reminds me a lot of when I accepted I was attracted (to some degree) to the same sex. At this stage, I wouldn't use a label right away. I felt I needed to say bisexual as I was still curious about men and women (since people like labels ). But after a while, I just realised my feelings for guys were stronger and called myself gay. Going back to when I first came out, I wish I had just said 'I liked guys' instead of such 'label'. Unfortunately, people love using labels (even ourselves when things are complicated). But,however you feel, don't feel you need to label yourself.

Going on to 'having a place in Dublin', the world is diverse (and gay world is just the same). I am not really into gay nightlife. But there are rugby/soccer LGBT clubs and watersports 'wet and wild', etc where you can meet people more naturally. If you just wanted 'fun', probably the likes of grindr would ring a bell but I don't think it's good to use unless you're confident in what you want from it (fun/NSA/casual banter).

genlad28

Playedalive, cheers for the advice and for sharing that!