randomverbalabuse

LegacyUser

Hi
im very angry and confused. I bumped into a woman I kind of know from home from along time ago in another town . I was cycling and I was pulled up outside a shop. I saw her going in and waved out to her. She came over and starting verbally abusing me over the way I was sitting on the bike saying she nearly ran me over. I apologied and moved up and she followed me ranting and raving I kept saying ok ok and she still wouldn't stop. I ended up cycling away from her about five mins later. Thing is im so angry and upset since. I called her to say hello as I hadn't seen her since we lived at home. I was not expecting this reaction. Fair enough if I was in a bad stop she could of mentioned it but she just kept shouting and shouting at me. I text her to tell her I was shocked and just said I didn't mean it like that! Im angry at myself for taking it off her and not standing up for myself. Why in the world would someone do that ?

Pawwed Rig

verbalabuse1 wrote: »

Why in the world would someone do that ?

Some people are just a***holes unfortunately. I have recently started cycling myself and the site of a bicycle is like a red rag to a bull to some people. So much so that I am probably gonna give it up as too much hassle. She most likely didn't recognise you and just saw the bike.

Feel good about the fact that you didn't sink down to her level. I think you handled it in a lot better manner than I would have

Tokyo

I'd have told her to get ****ed, as would a lot of other people. The stand you took was head and shoulders above what my reaction would have been. Pat yourself on the back for that, rather than getting yourself down over what seems to be an absolute overreaction by somebody who doesn't know how to keep their temper in check.

Also worth noting that if the way you were sitting on the bike meant that she "almost knocked you over", she should be more bloody aware of what's going on round her on the roads.....

K_P

I think that people's day to day interactions are generally so polite that when we are confronted with rudeness like that, we don't know what to do. It's only afterwards that we start get annoyed and think of all the things we could or should have said in that situation.

Try and put this out of your head. Her outburst was so strange that you can be pretty sure it was really nothing to do with you. Who knows, she could have been having a terrible day, just received bad news, be going through some mental health problems, or as others have said, she could just be an a**hole. I wouldn't worry about it.

Ah_Yeah

Some people are really rude. I wouldn't waste precious time dwelling on it.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies. So I was speaking with me "friend" who would be close with this person and she came to me and said that this lady said it never happened like that, that she was jojking and worried she would hit me .. no remorse at all. Now im not talking to "friend" who basically told me it didn't happen and I shouldn't be upset !

Big Bag of Chips

Your friend wasn't there! So she's hearing two different stories. Why should she take sides? Sounds to me like she's just staying out of it.

I don't understand why you're not talking to her just because she's listened to both of you giving conflicting stories.

It was an upsetting incident for you that your friend didn't witness. Leave her out of it, and stop trying to turn it into a bigger ordeal than it already is/was.

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Your friend wasn't there! So she's hearing two different stories. Why should she take sides? Sounds to me like she's just staying out of it.

I don't understand why you're not talking to her just because she's listened to both of you giving conflicting stories.

It was an upsetting incident for you that your friend didn't witness. Leave her out of it, and stop trying to turn it into a bigger ordeal than it already is/was.

I see what your saying.. I honestly didn't want her to take sides.. but she was telling me basically I shouldn't be upset over it as it didn't happen.... totally dismissing my feelings... and taking her side.. I am upset over it.. Im not taking it very well

blatantrereg

Not sure why you care. Why get into crap with a woman you barely know for shouting at you in the street? Just know to avoid them in future.

Big Bag of Chips

Randomverbalabuse wrote: »

but she was telling me basically I shouldn't be upset over it as it didn't happen.... totally dismissing my feelings... and taking her side.. I am upset over it.. Im not taking it very well

Maybe she wasn't dismissing your feelings. Maybe she could see exactly how upset you were and was trying to make you feel better by telling you that you misunderstood her friend. Obviously after you told her, she went and spoke to her friend, and her friend made it out to be less than you did.. so she came back to you to try smooth it out with what her other friend told her.

I'm not suggesting the first woman wasn't out of order, but you definitely seem to be making a bigger deal out of this than necessary, by dragging your friend into it and falling out with her because of something somebody else said.

Of course you were upset by the incident, but you can continue to be upset by it and fall out with you friend, or you can try to forget it, move on and never have to deal with the other woman again.

LegacyUser

They both bullied me when I was younger which I haven't really dealt with . I just remained friends with one so its bringing up a lot of hurt not being believed that something happened when similar things happened when I was younger and not being believed. I know I am making a big deal of it but this woman completely overreacted with me was downright mean and now is lying to people about it happening. Im the bad guy / girl for being upset over it. !