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  • 21-01-2014 11:06pm
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    *****Welcome to the Separation & Divorce Forum*****

    First things first:


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    What We Do

    The Separation and Divorce forum is a place to come and get some civil, mature, constructive and non-judgemental emotional and practical advice and support on the issues and challenges encountered encountered while going through a separation and/or a divorce, perhaps from those going through similar.

    Although some worthwhile advice may be hard to hear, common sense really does apply here; would you make such a comment or statement to a friend or family member going through similar? If you are unsure whether a post or thread is suitable, feel free to contact one of the S&D forum Mods and ask for a second opinion.

    Please note there are also Politics, Humanities, Relationship Issues and Parenting forums which may be more appropriate for your thread.

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    What We Don’t Do

    This is not the place for:

    Judging - We assume posters are here because they wish to investigate or proceed with separation/divorce. They should not be judged for reaching that decision, asked to justify their decision nor have the legitimacy of their decision called into question.

    Rants – think carefully before attempting to “name and shame”. Threads that go this route and put posters or Boards at risk of legal action will be deleted.

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    Blogging – communication here goes two ways; if a thread is just a running commentary, it will be closed and you will be advised to start a blog.

    Soap-boxing – advice given should be pertinent to the issue/query the OP has posted. Those who regularly derail and disrupt threads in order to push their pet topic/grievance will lose their posting rights to the forum.

    Using this forum instead of communication – threads that are used by two parties to discuss their ongoing separation or divorce will be closed. This forum is for advice/support, it is not a replacement for direct communication between two parties in real life.

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    Recommendations for Lawyers - We cannot give recommendations, any thread asking for recommendations will be locked.

    Separation and divorce can be a long and frustrating process and emotions can run high but we expect posters to be civil, polite and empathetic at all times.

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    Please be aware that this charter cannot cover every eventuality and even if not specifically mentioned, posts and posters that breach the overall purpose and ethos of this forum are still actionable.

    While we appreciate people can be affected by the separation or divorce of those they know and/or are close to, this forum is specifically a place where the parties who are separating or divorcing can get advice and support.

    If you wish discussion or advice regarding divorce and/or separation from a different perspective please look to see if another forum such as Humanities, Politics, Parenting or Personal Issues meets your needs.

    Many thanks.

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