Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Feeling insecure

  • 21-01-2014 7:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months now. He is really great and I do love him.

    The problem is one of his female friends. He has known her for several years at this stage. He is in a band, and this girl is one of the singers, so they see a lot of each other.
    I always suspected that he had feelings for her.
    A few weeks ago she came up in a conversation and he admitted that he used to fancy the pants off her before he got with me. She is now going out with a friend of my boyfriend, who is also a member of the band.
    Since my boyfriend admitted that he fancied her I've been feeling really insecure. The girl is stunning, and a lovely person too!
    Because of the band and because they have many mutual friends my boyfriend and this girl spend heaps of time together, certainly more time than he spends with me. The band travels a lot so they have lots of adventures and shared experiences that I never get to have with my boyfriend.
    I can't help but feel that if she had fancied him back that he would have got with her in an instant, and that I am second best.
    She is certainly his ideal woman, they have same hobbies, interests and friends. It's obvious that he still adores the girl and basically I feel like sh1t about it.

    I know I have been acting cold towards my boyfriend for the last while but I can't help the way I'm feeling.


Comments

  • #2
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    Did you fancy any other guy before you met your boyfriend? Of course you did.

    The fact is, he chose you, not her, and they obviously both seem quite happy with their respective partners. Perhaps if you are so concerned about them having shared experiences, would it be possible for you to join them sometimes, perhaps at weekends? (I assume that they are traveling together for gigs, etc)


Advertisement