Not going Debs

RoadWars2013

I don't really want to go to my debs as I have no one to go with.
I paid my deposit of €20 and they want the other €60 next month.
I don't know how to tell people
Am I a loser if I don't go ?

peekachoo

RoadWars2013 wrote: »

I don't really want to go to my debs as I have no one to go with.
I paid my deposit of €20 and they want the other €60 next month.
I don't know how to tell people
Am I a loser if I don't go ?

You're not a "loser" if ya don't go.

But you should! It's a fun night, you've already paid some of it. And besides nobody really has debs dates yet! Loads of people don't bring dates and even if you do, chances are you'll hardly see them during the night. I would recommend going but it's your own decision in the end!

Lukehandypants

I didn't go to my debs and I don't regret it at all.
Most of the people in my year were complete ass clowns.
I also have not gone to my school reunions either, why would I want to hang out with a bunch of rugby playing goons who will just harp on about the size of their BMWs.

Bandana boy

I do not know anybody who regrets going to their Debs but I know plenty who did not go and feel they missed out on a right of passage.

I would go even if solo as it is usually a good laugh and the summer break and folks getting on with there real life usally means the gob****ery of Secondary school is left behind.

rainbowtrout

RoadWars2013 wrote: »

I don't really want to go to my debs as I have no one to go with.
I paid my deposit of €20 and they want the other €60 next month.
I don't know how to tell people
Am I a loser if I don't go ?

I never went to my debs and didn't feel like I missed out on anything. There will be plenty of nights out in your life and plenty of college balls to go to if you want that sort of thing. If you don't want to go, don't go. Just tell whoever is collecting money for the debs that you have decided not to go and take the hit for the €20. You don't have to give any further explanation than that. You're also not a lose if you don't go. It's only a night out at the end of it all.

onethreefive

Hey,

I'm not going to go to mine and neither are a few of my friends. It's just a glorified and incredibly expensive night out that will be over before you know it.

ynwa14

You're not a loser if you don't go. I didn't go to mine, mainly because I had no friends and it would have been a super awkward night. I was a loser long before I didn't go to my debs xD
But seriously, if you have a group of good mates or good memories from school then it might be worth it, I get upset sometimes that I never went to my debs or our graduation ceremony and night out but then I remember nobody missed me there so why should I have bothered? But everyone else saw it as a great last hurrah with everyone so it's up to you. Lotsss of people didn't bring dates.

iDave

11 years for me since my LC. Didn't bother with debs and to be honest not once in the 11 years have I regretted it or looked back on a missed opportunity.

Carrie Madshaw

Yeah, God, I couldn't wait to get away from that school and never see most of those idiots again that I went to school with. A couple of guys I still am friends with went, and I don't think they ever mentioned it to me.
I'm not a fan of formalities so I was never going to go anyway. But don't fret, go on a holiday instead or something, there'll be plenty more parties to go to as your life goes on.

Lucena

I went to mine and to be honest, I wish I hadn’t. The pressure to bring a date meant I asked someone I hardly new, and the night was very loooooooong. I didn’t really spend any time with my friends, as they were busy with their dates, for some reason I managed to be seated away from them during the meal as well.

The food was sh1te (yes, I know people don’t go for the food) and all-in-all it was just an expensive night out. There was talk of parties afterwards but they never materialised. To be honest, I wish I hadn’t bothered.

Also the girl I brought was stuck for a date the following year, so I went with her to her debs, and once again, expense and boredom ruled.

AirBiscuit

I went alone to mine and still enjoyed it. It all depends on whether or not you're friends with most of your classmates

maguic24

RoadWars2013 wrote: »

I don't really want to go to my debs as I have no one to go with.
I paid my deposit of €20 and they want the other €60 next month.
I don't know how to tell people
Am I a loser if I don't go ?

Why do you need someone to go with? I went by myself in a cocktail dress. Was grand!! Everyone else had lost there dates by the end of the night! Trust me, you don't need a date. My little sisters are in leaving cert and they both only bought one ticket. They said if no one asks them they'll just go by themselves (mixed school).

Go, don't go, either way you won't miss much. I am glad I went to mine and it was fine. I suppose it would be harder for shy people, it didn't bother me at all. I was asked by a friend of my cousins who I didn't even know to go to his debs because 'he didn't want to go by myself'. I said no, you don't need a date and you shouldn't feel pressurized into going with someone.

If you feel like you really don't want to go, don't go. You're not a loser, trust me! All them 'cool' people in school will be the real losers in a few years time!! Take it from a girl who was in the nerd herd in school!! School and its crappy politics is such a load of crap! Be your own person, you'll be looking back laughing in a few years, trust me.

Geekness1234

It really comes down to wether you like your classmates, who you have to go with (friends/date), if you like formalities and if you mind forking out a decent bit of money.

Mr Pseudonym

Not having a date definitely isn't an issue: many won't have one, and loads misplace their date anyway.

I would probably recommend going. The debs isn't a classic night for anyone; no one looks back with nostalgia!! But, in, say, thirty years time, you may reflect with the rosiest of tinted glasses and think, "I wish I'd gone".

cathalio11

What would you guys think of going to the Debs but just not wanting to drink?

Is it a contradiction?

maguic24

cathalio11 wrote: »

What would you guys think of going to the Debs but just not wanting to drink?

Is it a contradiction?

Contradiction of what? I didn't drink at my debs....

Lucena

cathalio11 wrote: »

What would you guys think of going to the Debs but just not wanting to drink?

Is it a contradiction?

No, not everything has to be about drink. I like a few drinks now and then, but if that's not what you're into, you can have a good night without it.

Parties afterwards might be a different state of affairs, though!

user.name

Its not a must to go to your debs, a few people out of my year didn't go and don't regret it! If it is the fact you aren't bringing someone don't let that stop you from going! There was only two of us out of my group of friends that brought someone and had a great time

Nino Brown

I didn't go to mine, all the BS that goes with it just seemed like hard work. Can't say I regret it.

No Pants

Bandana boy wrote: »

I do not know anybody who regrets going to their Debs but I know plenty who did not go and feel they missed out on a right of passage.

I wish I hadn't bothered going to mine. It was okay, but it was expensive and the girl and I weren't speaking by the time the debs came around.