what to do??

science101

Hi, so yea well, long story short me and my ex-gf broke up back in October. We stupidly got drunk over the xmas period and slept together without protection,

i am due to leave the country (got offered a job in another country and already found a place to live etc and quit the job i had already)

now i realise what we did that night was very irresponsible but we are still friends and we met for a coffee as I am leaving during which she quietly kinda stated she didnt get her period yet.

She told her her last cycle. Started on 10th december - through 13th. We met up 2 days before xmas. She said she was due her next one on 8 - 10th this month and hasnt gotten it yet. she said she already had her PMT during the week last week and that everything is fine

i think she thinks im being dramatic on this

Penny Tration

You had unprotected sex, her period is late and you think she's being dramatic? Really? I don't think you're taking this seriously enough at all.

Ask her to do a pregnancy test. Until that's done, nothing is certain.

maria34

If she was due 8-10 then pregnancy test should show something. Really strange she hasnt done it yet.

science101

no no sorry just to clarify, she is thinking im being dramatic because i started to worry, she said to give it a few more days first

maria34

science101 wrote: »

no no sorry just to clarify, she is thinking im being dramatic because i started to worry, she said to give it a few more days first

Is there any reason she doesnt want to do the test?

When are u going to leave? Is she trying to keep you here for some reason? Who broke up the relationship in october?

Penny Tration

Sorry mate, I must have mis-read that!

You're not being dramatic. She needs to take a pregnancy test. Did she not take the morning after pill even? If she took that, it can delay your period.

science101

well, i ended the relationship in October, but she isnt the type that would try trap me or anything, once before when we were still together the condom broke and she took the morning after pill. We took a test as a precaution (i dont think u can be overly cautious when it comes to this stuff) she took the test and it was negative like she said it would be so i think she is doing a repeat of that scenario in her head but i dont think she took the pill this time round.

PirateShampoo

Simple one to solve, ask if you can go around to hers, stop off at chemist and grab a pregnancy test. Ask her to take it and you will find out. Simples.

Merkin

You slept with her on Day 14 of her cycle so you have every right to be concerned. I'd advise her to take a test.

czechlin

Make her take the test. This is not something you (both) want to be delaying much...

heretochat

I wold be having a canary if I was in your position OP. I just can't understand either of your attitudes towards this. It is something life changing after all..

Ask her in the strongest possible terms to do the test.

Big Bag of Chips

I think she's trying to talk it down in order to stop herself from panicking. If she truly thought there was nothing to worry about she wouldn't have even mentioned it, ans wouldn't have gone into such specific detail about her cycle.

I think she is panicking, but trying to appear calm and hope everything is ok, rather than admit it might not, and then have it confirmed by a pregnancy test.

Basically... She's in denial.

It is very very possible she is pregnant if she has a regular cycle. If she is pregnant, you both will eventually have to face it. Maybe she's prolonging it, desperately hoping for her period to start. Because if it doesn't come she might be thinking, what's the difference in finding out this week or next.

Maura74

She maybe be in denial and hoping that she will be OK, but why put both if you through the uncertainty when she can put a stop to it by taking the test.

Stavro Mueller

It's understandable that she's running away from this issue. It's human nature and just about all of us have been guilty of it at one time or another. I think though that when it comes to this issue, you and her are better off finding out what the story is as soon as you can. At least you'll know one way or the other for definite and you can start dealing with that. If she's not pregnant then it'll put your minds at ease and you need not worry any more.

If on the other hand she is pregnant, then you've got decisions to make. If you think either of you need to talk to someone, check out Positive Options . which is a crisis pregnancy service.