friend is totally obsessed with girl

LegacyUser

ok so i have a very close male friend who is obsessed with a girl we both used to be friends with, they have fell out, but me and her are still talking, the only thing is he just brings me down because im feeling pretty down myself at the moment and every chance he gets his moaning on about her and bringing her up in every subject its really boring for me to have to listen to,, as far as i know he declared his love for her and she didnt feel the same so now there going to keep there distance, yet im stuck in the middle, listening to him talk about her all the time, i know his hurting but i dont think i can take much more of his whineing, any advice please

Merkin

Tell him that you will only continue to hang around with him on the provision that he stops talking about this girl as it's boring the pants off you.

Brussels Sprout

Tell him "Congratulations on telling her how you felt. That took courage. It didn't work out but at least now you know. It's time to start thinking beyond her. If you keep bringing her up then this process is only going to take longer and you're going to cause yourself more needless pain"

Then try and encourage him to start new hobbies or get himself into new scenarios where he might meet somebody new.

Tramps Like Us

How long ago did they fall out?

Your friend has had his heart broken. You should console him for a while, but if this is going on for ages you will just have to say to him that he needs to try and move on. Bring him to fun things, encourage him to try and move on rather than wallow. Drink will not help btw

LegacyUser

we do fun things together but he will bring her up in every second sentence, lets say we go bowling he will say i remember the time me and such and such went bowling, its just getting so boring he says he has no time for her anymore but every time he opens his mouth her name is involved, i dont mind some one talking about an ex but this is not normal the amount he talks about her, even before they fell out and me and him hung out she was the only topic of conversation i cant take much more,

December2012

In a kind way, you can tell him that he's talking too much about her, and while you want him to talk to you and be his friend, he can't be bad mouthing your friend to you. If he's that distraught maybe he should go see somebody or talk to someone else.