What to do

Supersiderman

Hi. Meeting someone about a month. She be hot and cold with me. One night she was really nasty to me and I left her house and was texting me saying she didn't want to see me. Then last Thursday after not seeing her for a week I met her and she explained her head was melted and she and her ex only finished 3 months ago and he finished with her and she was still mad about him, in Love with him until this week. That she got him out of her system.

She told me that once or twice when I stayed over and I would fall asleep, she would get up and go downstairs cos she felt like she was cheating and would have tears in her eyes. She said she loved spending time with me . She told me she wanted to be honest and open and felt bad for treating me this way.

Should I just not contact anymore. What do I do. I don't want to be second best or feel when she is with me, she wishes it was him

chinacup

Supersiderman wrote: »

Hi. Meeting someone about a month. She be hot and cold with me. One night she was really nasty to me and I left her house and was texting me saying she didn't want to see me. Then last Thursday after not seeing her for a week I met her and she explained her head was melted and she and her ex only finished 3 months ago and he finished with her and she was still mad about him, in Love with him until this week. That she got him out of her system.

She told me that once or twice when I stayed over and I would fall asleep, she would get up and go downstairs cos she felt like she was cheating and would have tears in her eyes. She said she loved spending time with me . She told me she wanted to be honest and open and felt bad for treating me this way.

Should I just not contact anymore. What do I do. I don't want to be second best or feel when she is with me, she wishes it was him

Sounds like she's already burned you a few times, I would have left it the first time if I was you. "Being really nasty to you" why would you want to be with this person a second longer? Save your dignity and move on, your worth more than someone treating you like that!

Supersiderman

Thanks. She swore she is over her ex now and has always be mad about me. She apologised loads of times. Nasty like I'd be downstairs and she would be on the phone upstairs having a row or texting him which I didn't know about until last Thursday.

I'm more hurt over me fast asleep and her downstairs feeling upset over thinking she felt like she was cheating on him.

Alainn Beauty MUA

She is clearly not over her ex , its only 3 months esp if it was a LTR it will take months and months to properly move on, she is trying to fill a void been with u but when it dosnt work she lashs out at u. There are so many girls in this world why wud u be with somebody that treats u in that manner, forget about her move on n find somebody that will treat u with respect

Supersiderman

They only went out for seven months and broken up 3 months ago. She keeps telling me she can't wait to see me and always wants to spend time with me. I'm mad about her and she tells me how gorgeous I am everyday and that she's falling for me

Merkin

Supersiderman wrote: »

They only went out for seven months and broken up 3 months ago. She keeps telling me she can't wait to see me and always wants to spend time with me. I'm mad about her and she tells me how gorgeous I am everyday and that she's falling for me

Until such time as she pines for her ex. She is a total flake who needs to be avoided at all costs. Anyone who plays hot and cold should never be entertained, I'd be waving her adieu and wishing her well.

December2012

It sounds to me like she's jumping into her relationship with you as a substitute for her ex.

You don't just say "oh I was still in love with my ex until this week).

She probably doesn't even realise it.

To be brutally honest, to me it sounds like she's not stable enough to go out with you.

She was in touch with him while going out with you? Maybe she was trying to make him jealous and he's not and that's why she's deciding you're now worthy of being treated with basic manners?

Lillibeth

She's not over him. It doesn't mean she doesn't like you, she probably does but she's not ready for a new relationship. Give your head some peace and walk away before you get in any deeper.

Victoria Fortescue

Supersiderman wrote: »

Hi. Meeting someone about a month. She be hot and cold with me. One night she was really nasty to me and I left her house and was texting me saying she didn't want to see me. Then last Thursday after not seeing her for a week I met her and she explained her head was melted and she and her ex only finished 3 months ago and he finished with her and she was still mad about him, in Love with him until this week. That she got him out of her system.

She told me that once or twice when I stayed over and I would fall asleep, she would get up and go downstairs cos she felt like she was cheating and would have tears in her eyes. She said she loved spending time with me . She told me she wanted to be honest and open and felt bad for treating me this way.

Should I just not contact anymore. What do I do. I don't want to be second best or feel when she is with me, she wishes it was him

As you gather from other responses, this one is a no go. She's a mess, and she is only clinging onto you as a replacement for him by the sounds of things. I don't mean that to sound harsh, but the girl hasn't gotten over him and hasn't cleared up the emotional baggage behind the break up. There's no way forward for you here, you're just going to have to see past the I miss you's, because all they really mean is 'I miss him, but you'll have to do'.