Partner still sexting...

Usermm88

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Usermm88 wrote: »

We have a lease and bills together so I don't know what to do next. But it's not even that, that has me so confused it's the pure embarrassment of having to explain to my family and friends why I would have moved out. People are waiting for us to get engaged or start a family after all this time.

You don't need to explain to anybody why you'd be moving out-it's none of their business.
Just tell them that the relationship had run it's course.
You cannot continue to live a life with someone you don't trust,simply because of how others might react.

Your lease?Let him look after it.It's the least he can do.
The bills?
Sort out your financial affairs as soon as possible.

Then walk away and start living the life you deserve.He will never change- you know this-so you will have to make positive changes for your future.
Best of luck.

Stavro Mueller

Usermm88 wrote: »

As bad as finding people on a website was, he had also started Facebooking people that I know of from around home. The sickening thing is I felt mortified in case any of them told my friends or family

If he has been sexting/facebooking people you know from home, there's a chance word has got out about the sort of person he is. There is a possibility that some of your friends or your family already know .

Now I don't know what to do. We have a lease and bills together so I don't know what to do next. But it's not even that, that has me so confused it's the pure embarrassment if having to explain to my family and friends why I would have moved out. People are waiting for us to get engaged or start a family after all this time. Not for us to split up. .

I'd just up and leave him to be honest. Let him pick up the mess. Nobody forced him to start sexting again so he's bringing it all on himself.

As for you, I don't see any reason why you should be embarrassed. You've done nothing wrong and don't start looking at possible inadequacies in your sex life as a reason. The only wrong thing you can do now is stay with him because you're afraid of looking like a fool. My guess is that most people would say "what a sleazebag" and clap you on the back for having the guts to walk out on him.

mangotracy

Hi,

I didn't get to see your original thread, or your reply to me as I haven't been on here for a week or so. I'm in a similar position. It's really not our fault, emotionally, sexually. And it is humiliating. But we didn't do anything, the shame is all that other man's. If you want to talk to me I'd be happy to listen.

Big Bag of Chips

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