Who wears the trousers ?

discodavie

Tying the knot in a few weeks and me and herself are having a debate about who gets the suits hired for them.

We both agree on groom,groomsmen, pageboy , best man and father of the bride but differ on opinion on whether or not her brother and my father get them too.

No major hassle either way but what is the concencus ?

January

Your father, yes, if you want him to match the grooms men, if the brother has no role he sorts his own suit.

Although if he's her only brother I'd probably sort the suit for him too...

Moonbeam

I agree, if you get one for one father then you get them for both.
I would let the siblings all sort themselves out.

Toots

If the brother's not in the 'wedding party' then there's no need to hire him a suit. It'd be a bit weird if he was just one of the 'regular' guests who happened to be wearing the morning suit or whatever the groom and wedding party were wearing. How old is the brother? Does he already have a suit or would it be difficult for him to get one? If so, you could always hire him a regular suit if you wanted.

Traditionally both the dads would get a suit, basically any of the men who will sit at the top table wear matching suits, so that would be groom, best man, groomsman/men and the two dads.

Gatica

Both dads always had matching suits at any wedding we've gone to. Anyone part of bridal party had suits.
My younger brother had suit and was a page-boy of sorts, my older brother had a suit and we made him an usher. There was no role otherwise, but we wanted him/them to be involved since both of my husband's brothers were groomsmen.

Berty

It different for everybody and differes between civil ceremonies, foreign weddings etc.

I booked my suits yesterday and told the guy 4 suits and gave a deposit, walked back in and said I needed 5. I forgot about my own suit.

As we are having a church wedding and going down a traditional route we are having Groom, Best Man, Groomsman, Father of Groom, Father of the Bride and possibly two page boys if it takes our fancy.

January

Beer Baron wrote: »

It different for everybody and differes between civil ceremonies, foreign weddings etc.

I booked my suits yesterday and told the guy 4 suits and gave a deposit, walked back in and said I needed 5. I forgot about my own suit.

As we are having a church wedding and going down a traditional route we are having Groom, Best Man, Groomsman, Father of Groom, Father of the Bride and possibly two page boys if it takes our fancy.

We're having a civil ceremony and having 5 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen, 5 flower girls and two page boys :eek:

I don't like leaving people out haha, thankfully we can afford it.

Berty

January wrote: »

We're having a civil ceremony and having 5 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen, 5 flower girls and two page boys :eek:

I don't like leaving people out haha, thankfully we can afford it.

You have 5 Bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. Who's dancing with the spare bridesmaid?

January

We're debating on whether we're doing a first dance! We'll find someone

beertons

Who's taking the spare down the aisle at the end?

January

beertons wrote: »

Who's taking the spare down the aisle at the end?

Page boy... he's her son...

Sala

Is it necessary to get suits for your dad!? I was hoping he's just wear what he wants..

January

Is he walking you down the aisle? I really think any member of the wedding party needs a matching suit.

Gatica

I'm sure if you're having a small wedding and small wedding party with just yourselves and the witnesses and especially if you can't afford to suit up the whole lot, then I don't think there's anything odd with leaving out dressing the dads.
There's also no reason to follow tradition, do what suits your wedding. However, I've just never been to a "big" traditional wedding where the dads were not considered part of the bridal party.

Typer Monkey

I think you should do whatever suits you and don't worry about convention/tradition. We're not putting the dads in suits, having one bridesmaid and 3 groomsmen, no cake, no flowers and one (very short) speech. I couldn't give a stuff about convention! :-)

cookiecakes

We had the dads in complimentary but not matching suits to the rest of the dudes in the wedding party. My husband chose a kinda trendy skinny fit suit that wouldn't have worked at all on the dads so we found them a nice match in Paul Costelloe. Worked a treat! I'm not one for everybody has to do this. Do what you think is best for the people in your group!

krankykitty

We just asked the dads to wear a dark suit they already had (although they took the opportunity to buy new ones that they would use in the future). Coincidentally they all had navy suits. It looked well.

Husband and best man weren't in the usual wedding suits though, they both had "normal" suits