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Can't seem to make any male friends

  • 03-01-2014 2:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey,

    So my problem is that pretty much all of my friends are female... I just always seem to become friends with women.

    It started after I left secondary school and went to college, when my old friends started to mess up their own lives and I didn't want to get involved. I didn't play any sports or anything like that. The only two people I knew at my college where females. From then on almost all of my friends have been women. I have some guys that I would be half friends with. I would go out with every now and then, but not the type that would just call or text to see what's up.

    I'm very involved at my university in the society's and volunteering. I go out and do stuff, it's just that I always feel more comfortable around women, so always end up talking to them.

    My girlfriend never said anything about it to me, but I can't imagine she is fully happy with me being with other girls all the time.


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  • #2
    didntgotoplan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 236 ✭✭didntgotoplan


    I have a friend I met in work who is similar, he has all female friends. I asked him about it once and he told me that he grew up with all sisters so is used to our random talks and he never had any interest in any of the things the lads in work do, mainly sport. His girlfriend is fine with it as he has always been open with having lots of female friends and we get on.

    In school and college, I had only female friends and felt uncomfortable talking to the lads due to multiple issues I had with the males in my family (I won't go into it)

    I think you have a good head on your shoulders as you didn't get involved when your male friends began to mess up their life's. If you are worried about your girlfriend, talk to her about it. From what you said, she seems okay with it as she never brought it up.

    As long as you are happy and not being forced to do stuff you hate, then I don't see a problem with it. If this is making you unhappy, perhaps your female friends may be able to introduce you to the lads in their life's.


  • #3
    thegreatgonzo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,623 ✭✭✭thegreatgonzo


    Onlyhavefemalefriendswhy wrote: »


    I'm very involved at my university in the society's and volunteering. I go out and do stuff, it's just that I always feel more comfortable around women, so always end up talking to them.

    .

    You sound like a great guy. I love when lads are into actually getting out and doing stuff besides the usual sport and pub thing. I don't want to start making generalisations but I don't personally know many young lads in their 20's who do get involved in other stuff so maybe as you get older you will find there are more guys getting involved in things and you will find it easier to be comfortable with them. I know quite a few lads that when they got to their 30's they got tired of the pub and started developing hobbies.


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