Lonely.

Capallin

Single mum, haven't had a relationship for quite some time. Feel very alone as many of my friends have moved away/are in relationships. Find it very hard to meet anyone when I'm out, meeting someone is what I want but I'm also terrified of it. I wonder am I my own worst enemy. How do people let go and take chances? I'm afraid of being alone forever. Two of my ex's from my most serious relationships are in long term relationships since me...a guy I thought I liked went off with a friend of mine and they are happy together which is hard to watch but I'm happy for them. Makes me feel I'm not good enough for anyone. Help.

dannyc31

if its hard to meet someone out in the real world then start researching on the net into doing up a good online profile for online dating. also you could look into joining an introduction dating agency.

being a single mother i'm sure you're very busy, but if you had any interests or hobbies you should try to get more involved and you may meet someone like minded through them.

best of luck.

Victoria Fortescue

Capallin wrote: »

. How do people let go and take chances? I'm afraid of being alone forever.

You can only let go and take chances when you accept that you too, like everyone else, deserves happiness. It might be nerve wrecking to begin with, but without doing that you will never get the butterflies that the beginning of something new feels like again

Are you just hoping to meet someone when you are out or have you tried online dating?

Capallin

I have tried pof but I just found it was just a load of creeps on it in my area haha. I have a hobby that I love but seems to be predominantly women that do it so far anyway. Meeting people out seems near impossible, everyone (myself included at times) seems to be so drunk I just question their sincerity or motive! I'm definitely my own worst enemy..

Pawwed Rig

Find something that does not involve drinking.
Do you work? get involved in activities with colleagues.
If not would you consider doing a college course? They are great ways of meeting people.
Online dating is another good way. To say "just a load of creeps on it in my area" tells me you did not really take it very seriously as there are loads of good guys on those sites. Also they do not have to be in your area.

When I was dating I met one or two people who defined themselves as a single mother whereas others were also parents but much more than that (if that makes sense). The most attractive aspect of someone is when they are talking about a topic that they are passionate about.

SpaceRocket

I'd second what PP has said about doing some new things that might widen your social circle to include those who have similar interests as yourself, activities with no drink involved.
I wouldn't brush online dating aside after just one foray into pof. Online dating can work if you put effort into your profile. There are some sleezes on there, for sure, but you can tell by someone's profile if they are there just to 'see what it's all about', or if they are actually interested in getting to know someone and spark up a relationship. So maybe give it another chance.