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Shy. How do I meet girls?

  • 22-12-2013 11:15pm
    #1
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭


    Hi there

    I am 20 years old and I am looking for help to meet girls. I am quite shy when I'm out and I don't drink which makes it very hard to meet girls.

    I am proud of the fact that I don't drink alcohol but I do understand that nowadays drinking and going to pubs and clubs seems to be the way to meet girls. I have started going to pubs and clubs with my friends but I never have the courage to talk to girls while I'm there.

    Any advice would be much appreciated.
    Thanks


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  • #2
    5uspect
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 10,520 Mod ✭✭✭✭5uspect


    Forget about meeting girls in pubs and clubs, it isn't usually the way to meet someone you really like. You shouldn't have to change who you are to get a girl. Join a club or get involved in some hobby that interests you. You'll make friends with similar interests and if you're lucky maybe meet a girl. Of course don't do these things with the sole intention of just meeting girls.

    It's **** when your that age and you don't seem to be able to score when out with your friends. But don't let it get to you, there are girls out there, they're just not pissed out of their minds in the pub.


  • #3
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    5uspect wrote: »
    Forget about meeting girls in pubs and clubs, it isn't usually the way to meet someone you really like. You shouldn't have to change who you are to get a girl. Join a club or get involved in some hobby that interests you. You'll make friends with similar interests and if you're lucky maybe meet a girl. Of course don't do these things with the sole intention of just meeting girls.

    It's **** when your that age and you don't seem to be able to score when out with your friends. But don't let it get to you, there are girls out there, they're just not pissed out of their minds in the pub.

    Thanks for the reply, good point, the problem I have is that I live in a small town and I am off for the year from college so the only chance I have of meeting girls is when I go out with my friends at the weekend. Nothing for young people to do in my town.
    Thanks for understanding my problem, there aren't many non drinking 20 year olds in my town :)


  • #4
    Dolbert
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,154 ✭✭✭Dolbert


    Can you drive? A lot of the lads I knew would stay sober on nights out so they could gallantly drive home a girl and get a phone number out of it. Worth a shot!


  • #5
    5uspect
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 10,520 Mod ✭✭✭✭5uspect


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    Thanks for the reply, good point, the problem I have is that I live in a small town and I am off for the year from college so the only chance I have of meeting girls is when I go out with my friends at the weekend. Nothing for young people to do in my town.
    Thanks for understanding my problem, there aren't many non drinking 20 year olds in my town :)

    I was pretty much just like you, I still find it hard to hard to converse with anyone in pubs, they can be truly horrible places to talk to other people.
    Find a place where you can talk to and get to know girls easily and build some confidence. Then if you do meet them out you can say hello and have something to talk about. Even look at volunteering locally, doing something like sports training, anything that will build confidence. Ultimately tho when you're back in college my previous post should hopefully help.


  • #6
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    Dolbert wrote: »
    Can you drive? A lot of the lads I knew would stay sober on nights out so they could gallantly drive home a girl and get a phone number out of it. Worth a shot!

    Very good idea, i am hoping to get my full licence soon so that could work. I never thought of that. It could give me and her alone time to talk also. Thanks


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  • #7
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,907 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    Silverman11 - you are skating very close to a ban from the Personal Issues Forum. You have had 4 threads in 2 weeks on this same topic. You have been asked not to post again on this topic. As you are a new poster, and it is the season of goodwill, I am willing to give you the benefit of the doubt that you are not deliberately ignoring moderator instructions given to you, and you are just unfamiliar with the rules of the forum.

    Please read the Forum Charter before posting in Personal Issues or Relationship Issues again.

    And please read back over all the threads you have already started and take your advice from them. If you post on this topic again, you will be banned from this Forum.

    Thread Locked - DO NOT POST ON THIS TOPIC AGAIN


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