Don't want to run into people.

LegacyUser

Hi!
I am 21 lad and I did 2 years of a 4 year college course and obtained a cert. When I began the course I was bullied by a group of people and I was unhappy. I thus didn't love the course at the start but I said I would try and stick it out for a bit.
I did manage to make a few friends and was happy about that but I still wasn't in love with the course. To be honest I nearly hated it.
I got good results in first year(top of the year) without doing hardly any study and I was in two minds about doing back in second year. I was encouraged by friends/family for doing well and that I must have really liked the course.(didn't know how I was feeling)
I went back after the Summer and I just wasn't happy. I knew the fees were paid and I decided to stick out second year so I would get the cert. I kept this to myself for a while tough. During second year I realised that some people that I thought were my friends weren't and they were just using me for assignments.
I still had one friend left so I told her at the end of the Summer exams and told her to keep it to herself for a while. She knew I was un happy with the course and she didn't care.
I did my final exam their in May and I haven't look back scene. I've just being so happy. My family was happy for me as well.
Role on September and everyone went back to college. My friend had to take a year out because of family reasons. So I sent every one in the class an message saying that I enjoyed the last two years but the course isn't for me and I wanted to do different things.
The messages I got back were your a waster/useless/etc(These were from people I helped)
I got a small part time job in September and I started doing painting/diy/cleaning for people so I have been busier than ever the last few months. I also have a fair idea of what I'm going to do in college next year.( 1/2 year agricultural course )
The people I went to college with found this out and they sent me messages mocking me over these. I honestly never want to see these people again.
I have gone to the city the college is in since then(during day time). I know tomorrow their last exam is on and they will be going shopping/out after it and I've being asked to go their with my sister shopping/to a show and I'm worried that I'll run into these people tomorrow and they'll really make me feel down/useless. Any ideas on what I should say to them?
I know this issue is small compared to other peoples.
Thanks

Firstly, if they're messaging you on Facebook, unfriend them. If you're in text contact with them, delete the texts without reading them and consider changing your number. If you see them while you're out with your sister, don't stop to talk and give them a chance to get at you, just keep walking and say 'Can't stop, in a hurry. Have a good Xmas' and keep moving.

No one can make you feel bad unless you allow them to. Decide in advance that their words won't hurt or worry you, and that their opinion doesn't count.

Then forget them and get on with your life. They're the past, look to your future.

Mayboy

Hey!

It's not what they call you - it's what you answer to....
They can only make you feel crap with your permission - in that you accept it or not. Smile & wave - works for me!

younglad21

younglad21 wrote: »

I know this issue is small compared to other peoples.
Thanks

Just to add, no issue is small if it's causing you anxiety. Other people's problems don't make your own trouble you less. You should never feel like you don't have a right to your feelings.

ruaille buaille

Candie wrote: »

If you see them while you're out with your sister, don't stop to talk and give them a chance to get at you, just keep walking and say 'Can't stop, in a hurry. Have a good Xmas' and keep moving.

Then forget them and get on with your life. They're the past, look to your future.

Couldnt agree more! Give them a huge smile and wave and act like your life is fabulous and your too busy to stop! Pretend your an actor giving the performance of your life. Dont let them get their way and make u feel bad. You should be proud of what u have achieved!