opinions on grindr

outnumbered

Hi all!
First time posting here so hello!! I'm Jason and a student in trinity!
Just after coming home from college and turning on grindr! It's full of dirty disgusting old men who have no self respect. It's so different to up in Dublin!
Basically the app is starting to make me sick but yet I seen addicted to it.
What's your opinion of the app?

jabarrett35

Well some of the young ones don't seem to have much respect for themselves either to be frank!

Rick_

It is what it is. Mostly used for hooking up with a randomer but the odd few use it to find friends or a relationship, but just get chatted to by guys looking a hook up with a randomer.

Special mention goes to those who have no picture as they're afraid their mothers will turn on Grindr and see them on it, or even those with a fake picture which of course they got someone else to send to them before screenshotting it and blocking them without so much as a "sorry, you're not my type, but good luck on your search "

It's also a cool place to talk to headless torsos, Transformers, dogs, beautiful landscapes and close-ups of food/drink.

To sum it up, unless you're desperate, it's probably best avoided.

Barna77

Paddy C wrote: »

It's also a cool place to talk to headless torsos, Transformers, dogs, beautiful landscapes and close-ups of food/drink.

True hahaa Another mention to the guys with headless or random pics saying, no, demanding, that having a face picture is a must to talk to them haha

So yeah, grinder is shíte. But I've met some good friends through both grinder and acruff. It's possible to find decent people out there, but you're most likely to win the lottery.

floggg

Paddy C wrote: »

It is what it is. Mostly used for hooking up with a randomer but the odd few use it to find friends or a relationship, but just get chatted to by guys looking a hook up with a randomer.

Special mention goes to those who have no picture as they're afraid their mothers will turn on Grindr and see them on it, or even those with a fake picture which of course they got someone else to send to them before screenshotting it and blocking them without so much as a "sorry, you're not my type, but good luck on your search "

It's also a cool place to talk to headless torsos, Transformers, dogs, beautiful landscapes and close-ups of food/drink.

To sum it up, unless you're desperate, it's probably best avoided.

To be honest, it's the desperate who should avoid it. They tend to have unrealistic expectations and then get upset when they aren't matched, and end up bitter and angry.

Plenty of us met wonderful people there, and have gone on to have long term relationships with them.

The problem is when you expect an app to solve all your problems and that you just download it and the right man will find you. It doesn't work like that.

If you use it knowing that the majority are time wasters, and realising much like in real life you'll probably have to kiss a lot of frogs (metaphorically or otherwise) before you find your prince you'll be fine.

esposito

It's a load of b****x. Full of time-wasters

playedalive

I think you need to be very strong in yourself and in your sexuality to deal with grindr. Not good for someone who just wants to meet like minded people/ find romance.

renraw

As somebody said previously? It does what it says on the tin! Its not down to likes and dislikes! Its down to SEX and SEX! in fairness! whatever suits! I haven't gone on to Grindr looking for a life long commitment?!?!... Seriously guys! whatever floats your boat! All's good, we are but Human...

I met some good friends of off it

J_E

Much prefer Scruff but it's about the kind of guy I look for too, Scruff has a different audience.

To be honest apps like that are great but don't rely on them too much, there's something very exciting about an unplanned meetup. You should also have a sense of intuition with you to filter out the timewasters and people you won't click with - usually stuff like a nice picture of a sunset instead of a face pic is a giveaway (though I understand some people need discretion due to career/personal life) If their first message is asking for cock pics, forget it.

Rick_

I always found it strange that people ask for cock pics on dating sites/Grindr. It's as if they are saying "I don't care what the rest of you looks like, as long as you have a nice dick, you'll do."

I decided to give it a go out of boredom and morbid curiosity. One of my first interactions went thus:

Guy: Hey
Me: Hello, how's it going?
Guy: Can we cuddle
Me: .....

I mean, it's a bit nicer than being asked for a picture of my cock I guess but still...is it incredibly optimistic or naive of me to at least expect a few drinks before it turns to that?

Tbh though even if I did get chatting to a guy I liked I'd prob be too scared to meet him; I've learned to be ok with my face but am still rather self-conscious about my body.

I don't see the point in bashing Grindr or ANY of the users on it. There is every type of person on Grindr, all with different tastes and expectations.
What might put you off some one on Grindr could be enticing for some one else.
If a person doesn't want to put their pic on their profile, well so be it. There can be many reasons for doing so. You can block 10 people a day lol.
Use the app or don't, it's your choice. I know quite a few guys who have met using Grindr and became, lovers, friends etc.

Ten of Swords

Grindr is fine if you have clear and realistic expectations and you take it for what it is. I don't use it to find friends.

makeandcreate

Deleted User wrote: »

I decided to give it a go out of boredom and morbid curiosity. One of my first interactions went thus:

Guy: Hey
Me: Hello, how's it going?
Guy: Can we cuddle
Me: .....

I mean, it's a bit nicer than being asked for a picture of my cock I guess but still...is it incredibly optimistic or naive of me to at least expect a few drinks before it turns to that?

Tbh though even if I did get chatting to a guy I liked I'd prob be too scared to meet him; I've learned to be ok with my face but am still rather self-conscious about my body.

Seems like a classic he was trying to live up to your expectations (no instant cock pics)
but you are hung up on yourself (self conscious)

guys do that to girls as well - I'll just spoon you and then it ends up girl thinking - he don't want to - guy thinking - I can't, cos I might really destroy this. Or girls do it ... just hug me ... and then wtf - why aren't you making a move.
Once everyone knows what they want, life get so much easier - you might have less friends, play less games but oh, there's air out there.

J_E

Deleted User wrote: »

I decided to give it a go out of boredom and morbid curiosity. One of my first interactions went thus:

Guy: Hey
Me: Hello, how's it going?
Guy: Can we cuddle
Me: .....

I mean, it's a bit nicer than being asked for a picture of my cock I guess but still...is it incredibly optimistic or naive of me to at least expect a few drinks before it turns to that?

Tbh though even if I did get chatting to a guy I liked I'd prob be too scared to meet him; I've learned to be ok with my face but am still rather self-conscious about my body.

My view on it is, just chill out, go with the flow, see where things go. I love cuddles myself so I would be up for it!

Billyum

I think Grindr is fantasic! Its so easy, If you dont like what you see, Block them, if you like what you see, Say Hello! and if they dont reply then get the **** over it because nobody has an obligation to think your attractive. Simples!!!! :-)

closeline

What is the difference between this and tinder

Barna77

I deleted it. Not missing it at all.

Rick_

I recently re-downloaded it for a nosey to see if anyone new who lived locally popped up.

A few new people were on it all quite close to me, and simply messaging them and saying hello or asking if they'd like to chat and be friends resulted in me being blocked by all of them rather quickly.

I'm guessing it's pointless trying to use it for anything other than sex meets... or there's something hideously wrong with me that I managed to repel 3 people simultaneously!

I think I'll delete it again!

playedalive

Paddy C wrote: »

I recently re-downloaded it for a nosey to see if anyone new who lived locally popped up.

A few new people were on it all quite close to me, and simply messaging them and saying hello or asking if they'd like to chat and be friends resulted in me being blocked by all of them rather quickly.

I'm guessing it's pointless trying to use it for anything other than sex meets... or there's something hideously wrong with me that I managed to repel 3 people simultaneously!

I think I'll delete it again!

Don't worry too much about it (easier said than done, I know). It really is BS grindr.

Like it is easy for people to say to not take it seriously, but when you really crave to connect with other guys, you can't help but take it to heart that other people block you for just not being what they want at first sight. I guess, at that point, people are right saying not to take it seriously as it is superficial in those circumstances.