I am a thief..

LegacyUser

was out over the weekend in a big group, girls all had their handbags together on a barstool, end of the night, very drunk, i picked up my girlfriends and what i assumed was one of her friends bags, outside someone said thats not one of ours, so ended up looking into it to check, definitely not one of the girls, so decided to bring it back, however, for some reason, and i honestly have no idea why, i took 20e out of the purse before i did so. i have no idea why i would do this. not short on money or any other logical reason i would even consider taking it. i brought it back to the door, bouncer asked me to step inside and took my details and the bag, so everything from me leaving with the bag, probably looking through it to see id, and taking 20 euro, and then going back with it, as well as inside the door, would be on camera i would imagine. when i woke up the next day and i suddenly remembered, it was like a train hitting me. i feel so horrifically guilty, i can't even sleep properly. i feel like im john gilligan, and any moment the guards will come breaking down my door. all this over a stupid insignificant 20 euro like! i cant figure out what an earth i was thinking. its now eating me alive and i know i wont even be able to enjoy christmas as mad as it sounds but im just not that sort of person at all usually and it is killing me. wish there was something i could do.

m'lady

Has the person who owns the money contacted you to say thanks or whatever?

CaraMay

Double it and give it to charity.

LegacyUser

no-one contacted me. was so drunk im not even sure i gave a number to the bouncer. the donation is a good idea, i donated 40 to my local hospice, still feel absolutely wretched though. i wish the person would contact me so i could straighten it out.

MagicMarker

TBH the person will probably just be delighted to get their bag back. Chances are they may not notice a missing 20 and if they do they probably wouldn't think it was stolen by the same person handing it back in, and is unlikely to care enough to get security to look back over the tapes.

Shítty thing to do, but I don't think you need to worry about dropping the soap in the showers just yet.

€20 isn't an insignificant amount. It could mean a few more drinks, the cab fare, heck even a week's groceries if you shop correctly. So it definitely isn't an insignificant amount. What you did is unbelievably horrible - drunk or not, you stole. If it is an insignificant amount to you, own up to the person and give them the €20 back and then give a similar amount to charity, if not double it.

wallycharlo

I certainly wouldn't miss it as I tend to find money not only in my wallet, but also scrunched up in balls in several pockets the morning after a night out. That might be saying more about my own stupidity rather than anything else though!

Stupid thing to do OP, but it seems you have learned your lesson. A charitable donation as suggested by another poster may indeed set your mind at ease.

ManOfMystery

Charitable donation is a good idea. You've done a wrong (for whatever reason) ............. so now you can do a right.

ivytwine

Deleted User wrote: »

€20 isn't an insignificant amount. It could mean a few more drinks, the cab fare, heck even a week's groceries if you shop correctly. So it definitely isn't an insignificant amount. What you did is unbelievably horrible - drunk or not, you stole. If it is an insignificant amount to you, own up to the person and give them the €20 back and then give a similar amount to charity, if not double it.

Yeah have to agree there, I'd really miss €20 if l lost it.

However the OP is already feeling horrific enough so don't think they need reminding of this.

Can you go back to the club and ask the staff who collected the bag if they would have her details? Maybe then instead of admitting you took it, say that €20 slipped out while you were looking for her ID and you'd like to give it back to her. They'll prob know you're lying but you're trying to make amends so they'll prob give you the benefit of the doubt.

Look even the best of us can do something terrible in the heat of the moment and if you try and make amends and learn from this it will make you a better person.

I can hardly believe I'm saying this but if you're religious would you consider going to confession? It might alleviate the guilt somewhat.

gugleguy

20 euro is not an insignificant amount. Sorry OP there does'nt seem to be a solution here to salve your conscience and neither have I.

samina

At the end of the night 20 euro could be the difference between a woman getting home safely or not.
But regardless we've all done some stupid things. What's done is done there's nothing you can do about it now.

superman28

You are indeed a thief and Karma is going to get you back soon...

You should slip 20 euro into some random girls bag the next time you are out to balance things out... simple..

Galadriel

superman28 wrote: »

You are indeed a thief and Karma is going to get you back soon...

You should slip 20 euro into some random girls bag the next time you are out to balance things out... simple..

I wouldn't do this, if you got caught someone might think you where stealing.

Frank Garrett

superman28 wrote: »

You are indeed a thief and Karma is going to get you back soon...

You should slip 20 euro into some random girls bag the next time you are out to balance things out... simple..

Worst advice ever.

Koptain Liverpool

The best thing to do would be to just forget about it and make a donation to charity as others have said. Yes it was a bad thing to do but no point beating yourself up about. It's not the end of the world
Hopefully the guilt you feel will stop you from doing something like that again.