Fearful of being along any longer

LegacyUser

So I've decided to go anonymous for this, for many reasons...

So i'll just give a little bit of bio for myself...

Currently single @25, and never had any girlfriend, had a couple of very short things with two girls before. The first girl was pretty much a girl i met before going travailing a few years back, we spent 3 weekends together before i departed, the second girl was one i met after I came home from travailing and we hooked up a few times, but for the most part she seemed to lead me on and seemed to avoid been seen with me by her housemates.

So since then I've had a couple of one night stands, one with a friend of a friend and the other with a friend...both stupid ideas and of course came to nothing.

So at 25, never been in a relationship and for the most part fairly content with being along, but getting bouts of being very unhappy with being alone...

In the last month I've developed feelings for a girl I currently work with, now she is a 3 years younger than me. In work we get on fairly well, have a bit of laugh with one another and don't know what is going on, as in at times it seems like she maybe flirting with me and me with her, but then I think to myself, am i subconsciously telling myself she is flirting with me as a way of giving myself a confidence boost...

So to tonight...

My housemate comes in from work and is like "wanna go for a pint" and I'm like why not, go one turns to three and we end up in a club, were i bump into a girl I have developed feelings for over the last month or so...and we get chatting for a little bit, and to some of her friends, so I leave her to her friends...

So i'm off dancing and having a great night, but no girls show any interest in me at all or if they do, i'm just so intraverted to pick up on their signals and I just leave the club with a horrible feeling of being along...

Yes i know I'm all over the place, the emotions are all over the place...

Like a girl I work with, but afraid for my life to do anything about it, too afraid to approach girls on the dance floor...Just a coward when it comes to women...

And just really afraid I'm going to be along for another year and I'm sure the few pints flowing through my system aren't helping either...

Sorry for the long(and at times disjointed post)

TwoGallants

You're trying to meet girls in the typical Irish nightclub? Good luck.

Relationships blossom through friendships, friend-of-a-friend etc.

stop animal cruelty

your not alone, l'm the exact same! one thing l will say is that most of us girls dont usually make the first move on the dance floor...look relationships can happen anywhere be it in a night club or in tesco (in a way lol) but if l were you in regards to the girl you like, maybe next time you meet her out offer to buy her a drink...if she says no lm ok thanks, then you know ....but if she says yes then there might be a chance, and just see how it goes. When lm out and if a guy offers to buy me a drink and l would if l was interested, if l wasn't l would say no in a nice way...l wouldn't ask her out at work, l just think it would be a bit awkward. But if things don't work out with her, don't rely on the night club to meet someone, you do need to get out more...and so do l

just wanted you to know your not alone...it sucks!

Blue Crystal

Here's some advice; you'll never blossom a relationship out of an Irish nightclub

Work; friends; people you meet from hobbies are a far better bet