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How many people for Christmas?

  • 12-12-2013 11:07pm
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    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    Are you a person who likes the phone off and the door locked for Christmas day or do you have all the family calling or you call to them with big numbers for dinner?

    I like to have a dinner and evening with the extended family a week or two before Christmas but then on Christmas day it's strictly just our house for the day.

    I know people who have 20+ for dinner which to me sounds like a nightmare and trouble waiting to happen. It sounds like an extremely busy day and I would be looking for a nice quiet relaxing day with my family in my own house. I grew up with the same attitude from my parents so I suppose that's what I'm used to.


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  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Regional North Mods, Regional West Moderators Posts: 81,470 Mod ✭✭✭✭ biko


    For us it's a quiet Christmas Day with immediate family, about 6 or 7 of us altogether.
    Food and TV mainly, lots of chatting and cups of tea. Boards games.
    A few phone calls to people abroad.
    Then often down the pubs for Stephen's and the day after.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭ Digs


    We have 13 for dinner but my immediate family is big. My two brothers go to their wives family. For dinner Myself, my sisters and our partners come to my mum and dads along with one of my dad's brothers and his wife, my two cousins and my nanny. In the evening most of my aunts and uncles etc come over for poker and games so it gets pretty busy. I love the hustle and bustle on Christmas day, my parents is definitely a more the merrier kind of house :)

    Edit to add: Oooops 14 for dinner, Baba with us this year!


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,351 ✭✭✭ Littlehorny


    Had 10 on Christmas Day and 12 on Stephen's Day last year, not complaining cause it was great but jaysus the wife and meself were shattered by 9pm Stepens night!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 602 hotbabe1992


    We'll be having about seven extra so its all out this christmas,lots of drink has to be bought up will be heading to dunnes for this weeks deals and lidls for the obvious all year round reasonable pricing..


  • Registered Users Posts: 223 ✭✭ Emcm


    I cook for 10 in total. Myself, hubby and 4 kids then my parents my sister and her hubby. I love having lots of people for dinner it makes it such an occasion. I am one of 7 kids so was always used to a busy house.

    It is tiring I spend most of Christmas Eve in the kitchen and then busy few hours on the day itself. I like to cook everything myself from scratch as I want it to be perfect

    But I wouldn't have it any other way I just love it !!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 astonaidan


    bout 15 of us every year taking in laws and nieces/nephews into account


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    I'd absolutely hate the thoughts of a lot of people over for Christmas Day, either my family or the in laws. As I said I like to get all that done in the build up to Christmas and then just enjoy Christmas Eve and Day with my wife and kids. We go visiting then again after Stephen's Day.


  • Registered Users Posts: 6,546 ✭✭✭ Agricola


    I'd always just keep Christmas Day for the immediate family. I know it's a common custom in rural Ireland to go visiting people in the morning or in the late evening, but I would not be happy to see anyway except close family that day. It smacks to me of people who don't want to stay in their own home and so want to force themselves on you. There are 364 other days for that, imo.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    My thoughts exactly. I'm only waiting for the year when the wife thinks it would be a great idea to have her lot around for the day!! I would be living through one of my nightmares then.
    Agricola wrote: »
    I'd always just keep Christmas Day for the immediate family. I know it's a common custom in rural Ireland to go visiting people in the morning or in the late evening, but I would not be happy to see anyway except close family that day. It smacks to me of people who don't want to stay in their own home and so want to force themselves on you. There are 364 other days for that, imo.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,957 miss no stars


    6 in total, parents, me, brother, nanny and granduncle.

    Dinner around 2ish, they stay a while after but leave early enough. 4 of us for sambos and tea that evening :)


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  • Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,860 Mod ✭✭✭✭ Moonbeam


    We go to extended family for Christmas dinner there are about 18 of us incl 7 kids under 6(3 are mine and 4 are his cousins) it is brilliant:))
    I am an only child and loved christmas but hated christmas day,it was so boring and awful and could go no where so love the big christmases.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    Just a quick question for all those who have a large amount of their family around for Christmas Day, are you married with kids and if so do you go to the other halfs every other year or what way does it work?


  • Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,860 Mod ✭✭✭✭ Moonbeam


    We are married with kids but I have been going to his family since our 1st christmas together.


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,313 Sam Kade


    Had 10 on Christmas Day and 12 on Stephen's Day last year, not complaining cause it was great but jaysus the wife and meself were shattered by 9pm Stepens night!
    Jaysus what the devil were ye at ;)


  • Registered Users Posts: 31,647 ✭✭✭✭ Mars Bar


    If you want me on Christmas day, you have to come find me. I will not go anywhere Christmas day!

    We've only ever once had one extra person over for dinner on Christmas day. It's always just been the four of us.


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 26,596 Mod ✭✭✭✭ Posy


    I'm the exact same, Mars Bar - even down to the four people!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    Same here. Loads of people say they meet all their family on Christmas Day but I wonder how can they do this every year if they are married? Surely they have to go to the inlaws every second year or it wouldn't be fair. How long does this go on too? The kids have kids and so on the numbers keep rising. Surely someone eventually wants to spen the day with their own wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend and kids.

    I love it been just my wife and kids for Christmas. If I had to I wouldn't mind my family but I know i'd have to have her family over the following year. That's what I'm wondering, how do people appear to always only have to go to their family and not the inlaws?


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭ Digs


    jersman wrote: »
    Just a quick question for all those who have a large amount of their family around for Christmas Day, are you married with kids and if so do you go to the other halfs every other year or what way does it work?

    Married, one baby. Always go to my parents! It's where I will always want to go on Xmas day, we've been together a long time and he's always come with me even though I'd be happy for him to go to his. My sisters and their partners come to my parents, my brothers go to their wives family on Xmas day, they come to mams on Xmas eve. Just the way it works in our family! Seems to be the same way with our friends!

    Different strokes for different folks! Doesn't bother me what other people do!

    Edit: sorry I should add I'm very close to my family and he really enjoys their company whereas he can take or leave his (so can I really!). That probably makes it easier in fairness.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    Yea I was thinking it might be a case of one wanting to be at home with their parents every year and the other not been too bothered about being with their parents etc. It also often seems to be the case that the females continue to spend Christmas with their parents while the males either move on and have their own Christmas in their own house or go to their wife/girlfriends house.

    Would you not like to spend Christmas in your own house with your kids and start your own traditions?
    Digs wrote: »
    Married, one baby. Always go to my parents! It's where I will always want to go on Xmas day, we've been together a long time and he's always come with me even though I'd be happy for him to go to his. My sisters and their partners come to my parents, my brothers go to their wives family on Xmas day, they come to mams on Xmas eve. Just the way it works in our family! Seems to be the same way with our friends!

    Different strokes for different folks! Doesn't bother me what other people do!

    Edit: sorry I should add I'm very close to my family and he really enjoys their company whereas he can take or leave his (so can I really!). That probably makes it easier in fairness.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭ Digs


    jersman wrote: »
    Yea I was thinking it might be a case of one wanting to be at home with their parents every year and the other not been too bothered about being with their parents etc. It also often seems to be the case that the females continue to spend Christmas with their parents while the males either move on and have their own Christmas in their own house or go to their wife/girlfriends house.

    Would you not like to spend Christmas in your own house with your kids and start your own traditions?

    I do see your point but I suppose Christmas to me is family and while my daughter and husband are the most important thing to me my parents, siblings etc are a big part of our lives. It's a day we enjoy getting together, reminiscing on the year gone by, the year to come and those that aren't with us anymore. Myself and my siblings have our own traditions and we will now have new traditions that involve our children.

    I just couldn't imagine not seeing them on Christmas day, they love having us and we love being with them, I wouldn't change it for the world. My husband genuinely loves being around them, maybe it's a rarity?

    I'm not sure if I'm explaining it right, maybe it's to do with coming from a big family? My daughter at 8 months absolutely thrives in company, she loves being around them all! While being with a big crowd for dinner is some people idea of hell I love it!


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    I'd imagine I'd want my kids to continue to call around when they grow up and have a family of their own but I'd also understand if they wanted to move on and spend the day with their new family as it has to come to an end some time. I wouldn't like them to think they always had to come home for it. To me it's all about having Santa in your own house with your kids and having your own new traditions and then calling around to the relatives before or after Christmas Day.
    Digs wrote: »
    I do see your point but I suppose Christmas to me is family and while my daughter and husband are the most important thing to me my parents, siblings etc are a big part of our lives. It's a day we enjoy getting together, reminiscing on the year gone by, the year to come and those that aren't with us anymore. Myself and my siblings have our own traditions and we will now have new traditions that involve our children.

    I just couldn't imagine not seeing them on Christmas day, they love having us and we love being with them, I wouldn't change it for the world. My husband genuinely loves being around them, maybe it's a rarity?

    I'm not sure if I'm explaining it right, maybe it's to do with coming from a big family? My daughter at 8 months absolutely thrives in company, she loves being around them all! While being with a big crowd for dinner is some people idea of hell I love it!


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭ Digs


    jersman wrote: »
    I'd imagine I'd want my kids to continue to call around when they grow up and have a family of their own but I'd also understand if they wanted to move on and spend the day with their new family as it has to come to an end some time. I wouldn't like them to think they always had to come home for it. To me it's all about having Santa in your own house with your kids and having your own new traditions and then calling around to the relatives before or after Christmas Day.

    Yeah naturally it would be different if anyone felt a duty or burden to be there. That wouldn't be Christmas to me. My daughter is the first grandchild on our side (although there are three currently on the way!!! :)) so she is very much in demand but we are happy to share her, she brings so much joy to our parents and her aunts, uncles grand aunts etc after all kids are the essence of Christmas!

    I genuinely think there is no right or wrong answer. We happily spend plenty of time just the three of us during the year and are the happiest threesome going, however, Christmas Day is definitely about all the family for us :)


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭✭ jersman


    There is definitely no right or wrong!! I'm just interested to see the different ways people approach Christmas. There are definitely the people who absolutely wouldn't want anyone around (me) and people who like a lot of people.
    Digs wrote: »
    Yeah naturally it would be different if anyone felt a duty or burden to be there. That wouldn't be Christmas to me. My daughter is the first grandchild on our side (although there are three currently on the way!!! :)) so she is very much in demand but we are happy to share her, she brings so much joy to our parents and her aunts, uncles grand aunts etc after all kids are the essence of Christmas!

    I genuinely think there is no right or wrong answer. We happily spend plenty of time just the three of us during the year and are the happiest threesome going, however, Christmas Day is definitely about all the family for us :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,251 ✭✭✭ Pang


    Just three this year. Worst Christmas I ever had was at my Granny's where there were about fifteen people. I like to celebrate Christmas dinner and day with a small number of close family.


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