Back with ex - but its a big mistake

LegacyUser

Hey,

I posted here a long time ago, essentially I was in a toxic relationship that caused me major anxiety and depression. I managed to get out of it but a year later I'm right back in it again.

I thought at first it might work, as we both have changed quite a lot, I faced my mental issues and was on a solid road to recovery. We agreed to communicate a lot more and were very open about previous issues and how to deal with them going forward.

But now that I'm a couple months into the relationship I am starting to feel the same again, I've realized that I missed her companionship and not as a loving partner. I'm absolutely terrified to say it to her, I'm shaking now just typing it out. I'm so concerned about hurting other peoples feelings, (its probably one of the reasons I decided to go back) that I can't pull the trigger this close to xmas, but I cannot hold out on it much longer either.

I've no real questions, just looking to vent and write my thoughts out. I know what needs to be done, its just so difficult.

Merkin

BackHereAgain2 wrote: »

I can't pull the trigger this close to xmas, but I cannot hold out on it much longer either

Prolonging the inevitable is never a good idea. If you know you need to break up then break up. Letting the calendar dictate is never a good idea. I broke up with a partner before on our sixth anniversary and the day before his birthday. If you look at it in those terms there is never a good time. Be true to yourself and just pull the plug now if that's what you want to do.

LegacyUser

Yeah your right. I almost forgot how hard this sh*t can be. I just need to be honest with her and myself, its the fair and right thing to do.