A firend with Problems

LegacyUser

Like to say sorry for the spellings 1st

Ok guys i have been friends with this guy for about 10 years and got close in the last year.

At the moment we are not speaking due to the fact of what he did I had a one night stand with a girl condom broke, I panicked, Told her get the morning after, Paid for it, She refused to let me go with her, Got a STI test all ok.

This guy has history of lies but i felt sorry for him and no idea what to do about it. He made up a girlfriend that was going to have twins for him. Stayed in a 5 star hotel that is only for events with her when i know he would not have the money to stay there. She lost the kids by falling down steps and hitting a table that was at the end.
Then he made up that he got 20KG of Proton for €20 euros and my brother in law is a GM of a Gym and his replay was LoL non stop saying that i must get his guy in touch with him as he can make huge money for the gym. Another lie

Said to me that he has had sex with over 50 girls in the last year and like hes no brad pitt being honest i have went on the pull with him and countless times girls have told me he is creepy as all he does is put his arm around him we she trys to chat them up. I am no expact and a creep myself with girls but don't touch them.
He had a girlfriend in the summer that they where going out with each other and they never met ever !!!!. Ok they did in the end lasted about 2 months with her but he changed and moved out of his house as she didn't like it, dyed his hair for her and countless other stuff.

Then he went to online dating to try and get a girlfriend and he ended up speaking to this one and he never spoke on the phone or was friends with her on facebook after 2 weeks and i asked can i have a photo of her and found her facebook for him and showed him everything about her. Turns out not to be her as he went all the way to see her 100KM and booked a B and B and he was telling me in the mean time that he is going to move there and go to college there as his girlfriend lives there

One night out with another friend in witch i was int drinking as i was sick. He said that my friend tryed to shift his housemates girlfriend it NEVER HAPPENED i was with him for the night as he was drunk.

Told me another story of his dad haveing cancer and magicly he got the all clear 5 days later and after one temperament for it i got quite upset about this as you dont joke about something like that.

Another story was that he hit his dad a box in the face and ended up jail for the day because of it as the gerda where walking the sts in a small little town witch i used to pass trow 3 times a week and never seen a gerda there in my life.

He told me that he is getting watched for DRUGS and the gerda think hes a drug dealer and that he is also getting watched in fas for it and the leaders of what he does there check on his house every night as magicly he lives next to his leader ....

Then another story was he had sex with a somebody from a bad family and that they came down to kill him in a packup truck LoL. And that they had all areas out of the city watched waiting for him as they for going to kill him. He had to leave Fas that day in a boot of a car so that he would be been seen LoL

Then i was out last week 2 days after the one night stand with the girl and he was out with me and was very odd towards me like not speaking. He later met up with the girl i had the one night stand with and lied to my face saying i didn't no her after him telling my friend everything that has happened between us. He didnt see anything wrong in what he as doing he even was sending snap chats out of him and her.

The next day i sad to him what was your problem last night and he replayed to saying i need to tract girls right and not use them and i am going to make something of us as where in love and he blocked and removed me on facebook.

I txt your one saying all the stuff about him as i told her just stay away from him as he is not well in the head. She then went nuts at me and told me to be with this girl she made up and countless stuff like that. I just told her do you not see its wrong that he put you 1st after 2 days in front of a guy he was friends with for 10 years ?

I got txts from him at this time saying that he is going to kill me when he gets hold of me. I was like man i will show up at yours and speak about this as its not on. Then after months a went and told him all his lies back to him and all the massages in facebook i sent on to him. He said he never said the stuff to me and it was all in black and white. I gave him a number for a help line to ring and speak to someone about his problems and his lies and that he is going to keep on pushing for people away if he keeps acting the way hes does. I also told him i dont care about the girl if you would have told me about her and not lieyd i would be fine about it not the way you went on saying your in love with her to me after meting her once.
He then said that none of this stuff happened countless times and he can get me proof i told him i have all the proof here for you from everyone you even said you had sex with i asked them as i am trying to help you. He said he wonts to leave everything in the past. I told him you need to face your problems as i have faced mine and not hide from them and tell your friend that your going to kill him.

Like it has taking me months to bring up this stuff to him and the thing is i fell happy that some one has told him of his mental problems. I know it was bad me asking to see was everything was real as what i said her is only the tip of the story's. The reason i asked around was that i am fared that he is going to do something to him self.

Just wondering did i do the right thing and tell him he has to get help ?

thegreatgonzo

I'm sorry but that has to be the hardest post to read. Have I got this right...you and this guy have been friends for 10 years. He is a compulsive liar. You had a one night stand with a girl. You don't seem to particularly like her. He met her and has got together with her. He no longer wants to be your friend? Now you want him to get professional help for his compulsive lying.
Is that it?

username123

I find the post very difficult to understand but if it is what thegreatgonzo said, then I think you would be better off not friends with this person as it seems to just cause you problems.

LegacyUser

thegreatgonzo wrote: »

I'm sorry but that has to be the hardest post to read. Have I got this right...you and this guy have been friends for 10 years. He is a compulsive liar. You had a one night stand with a girl. You don't seem to particularly like her. He met her and has got together with her. He no longer wants to be your friend? Now you want him to get professional help for his compulsive lying.
Is that it?

Sorry about that guys being hard to read

Yes been friends for 10 years

Hes a compulsive liar

Had a one night stand huge mistake. Dont like her

Does not wont to be my friend after meting her

Yes wont to get him help for the lying

Both of them wont to met me today to speak about this

Merkin

Your post has actually given me a headache because it is nigh on impossible to read.

From what I can surmise, your friend is a nut job who is a fantastist and a compulsive liar so why are you even bothered being friends with him? Just cut contact with him and move on, I am sure you have other friends who you can hang around with.