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Terrified I will be left alone this christmas

  • 08-12-2013 8:54pm
    #1
    comfortseeker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭


    I am scared I will be left alone this Xmas and wont be going out. It sounds pathetic but to me, I havent had a night out since March. reason being, I had very low confidence due to an eating disorder and dont drink. now I have recovered but feel left behind. My best friend came home form college this weekend, i asked could I call to see her yesterday and he said he didnt feel well. i rang her earlier and she said she had another friend of hers calling and they she was going to plan the "christmas rota" for going out. My friend also said that she wasnt pushed on going out because there is "nowhere to go" and wanted to stay close to home. I dont really care as long as I do go out but I am afraid I will be left out. I am also a bit upset at the fact she didnt want to see me yesterday but this other girl today. Although she did send a text to say the other call had called and to ring if I was calling. I didnt reply because I wasnt asked in the first place.
    I know it sounds pathetic for a 23 year old to be crying over this but I just feel I really need to get out and about again and have been waiting for this for so long and Im just terrified of been left out. Anyone any advice?


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  • #2
    Ah_Yeah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,020 ✭✭✭Ah_Yeah


    Why don't you tell her you'd like to go out too and for her to consider you in for the Christmas Going Out Rota?


  • #3
    R.D. aka MR.D
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,643 ✭✭✭R.D. aka MR.D


    Probably the most important lesson I learned in secondary school was from my best friend. I was waiting at the bottom of the stairs to go to lunch with her and she walked straight past me. I was so angry. I couldn't believe it! I spent days fuming over it and stopped talking to her.

    She was a very direct person and asked what the problem was and i told her. She said 'if you wanted to go to lunch then why didn't you say 'oh hey S are you going for lunch, i'll go too'.

    It sounds so silly but this had never occurred to me before. Why is it her responsibility to always ask me?

    If you want to go to her house and she said to call then call. If you want to go out at xmas then tell them!


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