(almost) first time in bed

LegacyUser

i am i think possibly going to sleep with someone but i am very inexperience. i am a male. what are some good tips? how can i cover up?

thegreatgonzo

Be honest with her. If you think you don't know her well enough to feel comfortable having a talk about this, then I don't think you should be rushing into anything. She may well have her own insecurities too remember.

SingItOut

Try not to be nervous, and definetly don't set a date to sleep with this person just let it happen naturally and you'll be fine afterwards you'll be wondering what all the fuss was about

jantheman91

If you can trust her wholeheartedly then just be open and honest with her.

If on the other hand she's not someone you know as well as required to build this trust just try and wing it.

It's really not that difficult if you have the right mindset.

Make sure your thoughts and actions are aligned.

Have fun!

ElleEm

Something you will learn as time goes on, is that all women (and men) are different. What really turns one woman on, may do nothing for another, so it is important to find out what works for this girl. Ask her! Not in a weird question/ answer session before you get busy, but in a sexy, attentive way when you are getting intimate. When you are kissing/ caressing her, whisper to her, asking does she like it this way (hard/ soft), what does she want you to do, etc. Follow her direction. In the same way you know what turns you on, she knows what turns her on. Listen to her!
Go with it, don't worry. It may not be perfect, but enjoy all of it, not just the penetration.

Oh, and lube!

December2012

Channel 4 had a good real guide to sex show - see if it's on 4od.

1- make sure you're ready
2 - be clean, recently showered, fresh clothes, made bed
3 - have condoms and know to to use one and put one on
4 - spend time on foreplay, kissing, touching, rubbing
5 - try to relax

GarIT

not much experience wrote: »

how can i cover up?

http://www.durex.co.uk/products/condoms/extra-safe/

adazers

Learn how to put on a condom! sounds crazy, but this was one of the most awkward aspects of my first time. Also dont be disappointed if its not great, it'll still be really fun

banquo

Practice with a condom beforehand!

As many others have said, practice putting on a condom. There's likely tonnes and tonnes of instructional videos on YouTube or elsewhere on how to do this and make sure you're comfortable with putting one on. Using one is absolutely vital! It protects from pregnancy but also STIs. Speaking of STIs, if you think you're entering a sexual relationship with somebody, then you should consider getting screened. There's a slim chance of you having any, but it shows a certain level of responsibility.

Your first time isn't going to be great. Not the magic time you're probably expecting. Yes, it might seem pessimistic saying this, but you won't feel disappointed afterwards. Nobody's first time is amazing. You're inexperienced, but the more you have sex, the better you'll get.

As someone else has said, ensure that you're fully showered before going over, paying special attention to your genitals. Ensure that you clean in or around the tip of your penis - nobody wants a smegma covered mess.

LegacyUser

December2012 wrote: »

Channel 4 had a good real guide to sex show - see if it's on 4od.

1- make sure you're ready
2 - be clean, recently showered, fresh clothes, made bed
3 - have condoms and know to to use one and put one on
4 - spend time on foreplay, kissing, touching, rubbing
5 - try to relax

i cand find that actual show is it called sex box?

December2012

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-sex-education-show. Here it is on 4od.

jantheman91

Deleted User wrote: »

As many others have said, practice putting on a condom. There's likely tonnes and tonnes of instructional videos on YouTube or elsewhere on how to do this and make sure you're comfortable with putting one on. Using one is absolutely vital! It protects from pregnancy but also STIs. Speaking of STIs, if you think you're entering a sexual relationship with somebody, then you should consider getting screened. There's a slim chance of you having any, but it shows a certain level of responsibility.

Your first time isn't going to be great. Not the magic time you're probably expecting. Yes, it might seem pessimistic saying this, but you won't feel disappointed afterwards. Nobody's first time is amazing. You're inexperienced, but the more you have sex, the better you'll get.

As someone else has said, ensure that you're fully showered before going over, paying special attention to your genitals. Ensure that you clean in or around the tip of your penis - nobody wants a smegma covered mess.

The image that gives in my head makes me want to go and scrub myself with a wired brush.

Definitely make sure you're clean down there, for sure!

justforlaugh

not much experience wrote: »

i am i think possibly going to sleep with someone but i am very inexperience. i am a male. what are some good tips? how can i cover up?

before having intercourse, have foreplay and oral sex only for one night. you will feel more confidence about yourself after that and wont feel inexperience when having intercourse