kissed a girl now regret it

LegacyUser

about a year ago i kissed a girl she more or less threw herself at me. then acted wierd. she sleeps around (sorry that sounds a bit judemental) i thought she wanted to sleep with me and she acted a bit weired and we never slept together. but apparently she wanted a relationship. now she is phoning me and i am avoiding her. i dont really like avoiding but i dont want to go out with her other. if i say that i want to be just friends i am worried why that she is going to ask me why i kissed her.(was drunk at the time) she isnt a bad looking girl but she plays games. how can i meet up with her and tell her straight or should i just avoid her?

Penny Tration

It was a kiss, it's not a big deal. Just text her and ask her to please stop contacting you. Should get the message across fairly accurately.

.james1984

kissed a girl now regret it wrote: »

about a year ago i kissed a girl she more or less threw herself at me. then acted wierd. she sleeps around (sorry that sounds a bit judemental) i thought she wanted to sleep with me and she acted a bit weired and we never slept together. but apparently she wanted a relationship. now she is phoning me and i am avoiding her. i dont really like avoiding but i dont want to go out with her other. if i say that i want to be just friends i am worried why that she is going to ask me why i kissed her.(was drunk at the time) she isnt a bad looking girl but she plays games. how can i meet up with her and tell her straight or should i just avoid her?

Grow a pair and tell her the truth. Jesus wat age are ya 10????????

Merkin

I think you're really over thinking this. There was a casual snog a full year ago. You didn't impregnate her or propose marriage. Just block her number from your phone and move on from it all...

Taltos

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Big Bag of Chips

I'm guessing you are quite young, and maybe haven't kissed too many girls? Kissing a girl does not mean that you are pledging your life to her, or "owe" her anything in terms of a relationship. It was, as we called it in our day, "a shift"! She's been with plenty guys since she kissed you, from what you say, so you can be sure she hasn't been sitting around pining over you and wondering why you kissed her. From the sounds of it, she kissed you, anyway!

Avoid her/ignore her if you want. Or answer her and tell her you don't want to go out with her.

Either way - in 5 years time, none of this will matter

LegacyUser

it was a full on snog. she is i think possibly a bit unstable and reacted as if i just did it out of the blue even though she more or less threw herself at me. i dont like ignoring her calls or texts too much. i havent actually said anything to her yet. she has broken up with her boyfriend and now she wants to meet me. when she was going out with her boyfriend she would phone me very occasionally. i seen her a few nights ago and she told me she has had a thing for me for years. as i said she can play games so i dont know if she telling the truth or not

Penny Tration

kissed a girl now regret it wrote: »

it was a full on snog. she is i think possibly a bit unstable and reacted as if i just did it out of the blue even though she more or less threw herself at me. i dont like ignoring her calls or texts too much. i havent actually said anything to her yet. she has broken up with her boyfriend and now she wants to meet me. when she was going out with her boyfriend she would phone me very occasionally. i seen her a few nights ago and she told me she has had a thing for me for years. as i said she can play games so i dont know if she telling the truth or not

What do you want?

If you want her to leave you alone, you either tell her to stop contacting you, or you block her number.

Instead, you're giving her false hope by talking to her on nights out and not blocking her.

If you want to date her, then ask her out.

If you don't, then delete and block her.

I have to wonder if the reason you haven't blocked her yet is because it's a handy little ego boost knowing somebody wants you?

If you don't want her, stop leading her on mate.

deise08

Did you kiss her initially because you thought she was going to sleep wit you?

Big Bag of Chips

Well you can be sure whatever she's thinking, she's certainly not thinking about this as much as you are.

It's unclear whether you actually do want to go out with her or not. Nobody here can make that decision for you... That's something you're going to have to decide for yourself. But one thing you SHOULD know, seeing as you came to the internet for advice :- it doesn't matter! None of it!

The older I get the more I regret not "enjoying" my youth. "Youth is wasted on the young", is something you don't understand until you get a small bit older. I had so many teenage dramas with different boys that at the time they felt like life or death situations. Looking back now... it was all harmless fun. And if I could go back with the benefit of a small bit of maturity, I'd enjoy it all the better!

Although, none of that is really useful to you at the moment, because RIGHT NOW, this situation does seem like the be all and end all of your troubles at the minute! And it's really not that big a deal, at all.... but you won't realise that for a good few years, yet!

If you think you'd like to go out with her, ask her. She might say yes, she might say no. But either way you'll be fine.

If you don't want to go out with her, don't ask her.... she'll be equally fine!

LegacyUser

deise08 wrote: »

Did you kiss her initially because you thought she was going to sleep wit you?

to be blunt about it yes. she isnt a bad looking girl but i know from my friends experiences that she can play games

deise08

kissed a girl now regret it wrote: »

to be blunt about it yes. she isnt a bad looking girl but i know from my friends experiences that she can play games

So were you just lookin for a one night stand wit her and it didn't happen?
it does seem to me that she is looking for more than that that's why it didn't happen.
you need to just tell her.
not fair on her.
if you kissed again and it led to full stuff would that be just it on your part?
You need to spell it out for her your intentions. be it just sex or just nothin either way it not fair

LegacyUser

deise08 wrote: »

So were you just lookin for a one night stand wit her and it didn't happen?
it does seem to me that she is looking for more than that that's why it didn't happen.
you need to just tell her.
not fair on her.
if you kissed again and it led to full stuff would that be just it on your part?
You need to spell it out for her your intentions. be it just sex or just nothin either way it not fair

she was going out with someone else at the time. she told me they were split up but i knew myself they were still together. hate to say it but she sleeps around it didn't really occur to me she wanted us to go out as a couple and it left me feeling a bit guilty afterwards. however having said that it could be a game she is playing so i feel stupid too for feeling guilty


also it was a sor tof ego boost but any time i replied to her texts i was drunk. also isnt it ignorant to just cut contact completely? i am not in touch with her but if she texts me or rings me i answer back

Big Bag of Chips

OP, can I ask what advice you are looking for from posters? It's not really clear what it is you're asking.

Do you want nothing to do with her?
Do you want to go out with her?
Do you just want to sleep with her?

Stavro Mueller

kissed a girl now regret it wrote: »

about a year ago I kissed a girl she more or less threw herself at me. Then acted weird. She sleeps around (sorry that sounds a bit judgemental) I thought she wanted to sleep with me and she acted a bit weird and we never slept together.

You wanted a no strings attached shag with the local bike. You thought your chance had arrived when she kissed you.

She fancies you and may have kissed you thinking that it'd be the start of something more meaningful. But then she tried to put the brakes on, perhaps thinking that it was the thing to do? There is a school of thought that a one night stand or sleeping with someone on the first date kills the chances of a relationship stone dead. Perhaps she handled things more awkwardly than she'd have liked because she was nervous and didn't want to make a mess of things?

But apparently she wanted a relationship. Now she is phoning me and I am avoiding her. I don't really like avoiding but I don't want to go out with her either.

Is this the nub of the issue. She wants a boyfriend but you just want a shag. But you're not handling the issue very well and don't have the guts to just tell her straight out that you're not interested.

If I say that I want to be just friends I am worried why that she is going to ask me why I kissed her.(was drunk at the time) she isn't a bad looking girl but she plays games. How can I meet up with her and tell her straight or should I just avoid her?

For starters, knocking the friends thing on the head. You sound like you don't have much respect for her at all. So why delude yourself into thinking you can be "friends" . You sound like you're on the run from her because you're afraid you'll be asked out or something.

The mature thing to do here is to tell her that you're not interested. Then stop texting or trying to be "friends". Or indeed trying to get into her knickers. Some people are slow to take the hint -running away from the issue avoiding her isn't going to solve the problem. This has been going on for a year you say.

LegacyUser

it wass me that kissed then she acted as if we were just friends and that i misread the signals it was her that was coming onto me she had even told me before hand that the next time she sees me sh was going to stick her tongue down my throat but when i kissed her she acted totally surprised

yes i was just going to sleep with her. she was going out with a friend of mine and was sleeping around i used to avoid her because she would come onto me. she would also cause trouble by pretending guys were coming onto her i used to avoid her.

she started texting me when drunk once saying that she loved me

a friend of mine told me to do it. i kissed her then she started phoning me up i was surpised that she really did like me. on the one hand i know she plays games and a different friend of mine reckons she is just trying to mess with my head. i felt really guilty afterwards as i was surprised that she really liked me(if she does) she has slept with a fair few people i knew

this was a year ago at that time i was a virgin

since that has happened she has phoned or text me every few months but usually brief conversations asking about something.

i dont initiate conversations with her but if texts me i reply

i suppose i will just have to man up and tell her i am not looking for a relationship. or even sex i think

Stavro Mueller

So you're getting all worked up about someone who texts every few months??? Just tell her you're not interested and leave it at that. Or if you're not up to it, just ignore the texts. You're not doing yourself any favours by texting back and it's just encouraging her. Though I'm not so sure how keen she is if contact is as sporadic as this. She might be just texting when she's bored or at a loose end. The whole lot of you sound very immature and have a lot of growing up to do.

Oh and don't even entertain thoughts of having sex with her. That's just asking for trouble. Are you really that desperate for a roll in the hay that you need to resort to her?

LegacyUser

i never fancied her but she is good looking. i was going to sleep with her but she copped on i never fancied her i think but that i was going to sleep with her anyway. she was in touch every few months but now that she is broken up she is in touch more. this is partly because she has no one else to head out with she has lost touch with everyone. i know this sounds very immature too but i was trying to make another girl jealous as well and i was just going to sleep with her to get exeprience . she copped onto this and i felt like a real assh*le and yes it was an ego boost too but i would be drunk when i texted her back. in my defense i didnt have any sexual experience. i felt surprised that she had feelings for me(if she does). as i have already said she plays games and can be not genuine and can cause trouble

i am afraid to meet up with her as i dont want to go out with her and i am dont know what to say if she asks me why i kissed her. i hate ignoring her too and feel bad about it as she might just want to meet up for a few pints or have someone to talk to

i wish i had just told her that we should just be friends

Big Bag of Chips

kissed a girl now regret it wrote: »

i wish i had just told her that we should just be friends

So just tell her now, then.