unprotected sex on pill

LegacyUser

Hi guys i had unprotected sex last night with a girl whos on the pill she said she was fine and there was no need for the morning after pill i made her get one today what are the chances she might end up with a child now ? As i only know the girl a few weeks i made shore she gave me proof of her getting one is that wrong ?

As i have been in a panic since then

wallycharlo

If she is taking the pill correctly then I would imagine that the chances of her being pregnant are slim.

Perhaps you ought to be more conerned about STDs though !

Neyite

Well, I'm not gonna lecture you on condom use as you are already panicking but I will say that a pregnancy is not the only concern. STI's are too, especially since both of you were happy to have unprotected sex despite not knowing each other long. Consider getting yourself fully checked out there.

Nobody can give you stats here on chances. Usually the morning after pill is effective, and the sooner you take it after the event, the more effective it is. So you did the right thing there.

A potential pregnancy will take whats commonly known as the Two-week-wait before a test can be done to see if there is a pregnancy. Bear in mind the morning after pill can throw the spanner in the works with regard to an expected period due date, so her period might be delayed for that reason, not pregnancy. So a couple of weeks, give or take a few days,before she can test and before you know.

woodchuck

unprotected sex wrote: »

Hi guys i had unprotected sex last night with a girl whos on the pill she said she was fine and there was no need for the morning after pill i made her get one today what are the chances she might end up with a child now ?

I hope she mentioned to the doctor/pharmacist that she was already on the pill... it seems nuts that someone would actually give the morning after pill on top of that!

unprotected sex wrote: »

As i only know the girl a few weeks i made shore she gave me proof of her getting one is that wrong ?

Personally, yes I think it is wrong. If you were that concerned about getting her pregnant you should've taken precautions yourself such as wearing a condom.

LegacyUser

I know it was stupid what I did dont need to tell me that one

I know i need to get a STI test how do i go around getting one ?

She had it less then 12 Hours after he had sex the pill no idea if it works better.

wallycharlo

Your GP should be able to help you out for the STD test OP, or if you do not have a GP then I guess you could drop into a local clinic.

Don't beat yourself up too much, you sound like you have learned your lesson.

LegacyUser

I dont wont to go to my GP as i know him to well.

How do you book to go to a clinic ?

I just haveint got my mind of it

wallycharlo

Just Google 'STD clinic' and your location & have a read.

Czarcasm

unprotected sex wrote: »

Hi guys i had unprotected sex last night with a girl whos on the pill she said she was fine and there was no need for the morning after pill i made her get one today what are the chances she might end up with a child now ? As i only know the girl a few weeks i made shore she gave me proof of her getting one is that wrong ?

As i have been in a panic since then

unprotected sex wrote: »

I dont wont to go to my GP as i know him to well.

How do you book to go to a clinic ?

I just haveint got my mind of it

OP I don't want you to think I'm being hard on you, but if you're old enough and bold enough to be having sex, then forcing a girl to take the MAP afterwards; You're certainly old enough and bold enough to get your arse down to your GP and have a serious conversation about your sexual health and sex in general.

The fact that you know him well is every reason why it's important that you build a good relationship with your GP, so that you can talk openly and frankly with him and get the right advice and information about contraception so that you're not left panicking about pregnancy and STIs and you're not telling girls you barely know to go get the MAP to ease your anxieties.

Lollipops23

OP, if you're not at a stage where you'd believe her about taking her pill correctly, you're definitely not at a stage to be having unprotected sex with her.

As a side note, I hope you realise what an unpleasant experience taking the MAP can be for a woman. They don't call it "emergency" contraception for no reason. I've had to take it before, and I wouldn't be rushing to do it again unless I really thought I needed it. I certainly wouldn't appreciate being bullied into it and having to provide proof afterwards.

iusedtoknow

The pill when taken correctly is pretty good as a birth control. My wife used it for over 13 years and no issues.

Forcing someone to take the MAP is not cool, a) birth control is BOTH parties responsibility and you have to worry about STI's both ones you could have and give her and vice versa.

Before we started having unprotected sex (except for the pill) both my wife and I took STI tests to make sure we were both in the clear.

As for the GP - they are professionals and it's great to have that relationship with a doctor. He will not mention your visits to anyone else nor will he discuss it with you should you meet outside the office. It is part of their ethics.

If you're not willing and mature enough to go get an STI screening, then you're not mature enough to have unprotected sex.

Neyite

I have to backtrack on my earlier post. I missed where you forced her to take the MAP.

Just a few of the side effects the large hormone dose a morning after pill causes, OP:

• nausea and/or vomiting
• headache
• feeling tired
• fatigue
• feeling dizzy
• lower abdominal pain
• vaginal bleeding
• breast tenderness

Now, lets see. She was already using contraceptive (being responsible) you chose not to, likely down to the usual "don't like the feel of a condom" excuse.



Then you panicked about pregnancy. So you bullied and forced her to ingest a medication that can cause the above side effects. You made the assumption that she would not take the medication so you ensured she did. You must be a wonderful catch if you are so certain that she is out to trap you.



Coercion is never cool. Irrespective of your panic at your mistake, it is NEVER ok to do that. We all have a right to bodily integrity. I'm sure if a woman tried to make you take a pill that caused you to feel headaches, nausea, abdominal pain, dizziness and bleeding from your nether regions, you'd tell her where to go.



And now you are too embarrassed to ask your GP for an STI test? Its a chat, a sample, and a quick physical. If you cant mange that, don't have sex until you do.

LegacyUser

It's a wonder that people post in here at all when they get a lecture from the morally untouchable like the poster above.

The OP was asking a question because he was concerned. He wasn't asking to be lectured. He's not the first person in history to have unprotected sex and won't be the last.

OP, what's done is done. Get yourself to an STI clinic to get tested as recommend your partner does too. Then you can put your mind at rest.

eviltwin

Comeonenow wrote: »

It's a wonder that people post in here at all when they get a lecture from the morally untouchable like the poster above.

The OP was asking a question because he was concerned. He wasn't asking to be lectured. He's not the first person in history to have unprotected sex and won't be the last.

OP, what's done is done. Get yourself to an STI clinic to get tested as recommend your partner does too. Then you can put your mind at rest.

I think it was the "forcing her to take the MAP and give proof" that annoyed people, rightly so.

OP you've had a scare, a second one. I really hope you learn about how better to protect yourself in future. Sooner or later if you go on like this you'll find yourself with a baby on the way and/or an STD. Its really not worth the worry for a little bit of fun.

Czarcasm

Comeonenow wrote: »

It's a wonder that people post in here at all when they get a lecture from the morally untouchable like the poster above.

It's much less about morals comeonnow, and more about common sense, and Neyites above is likely to fall on deaf ears, which is why I left it out and advised the OP to sit down with their GP instead. At least their GP has some possible chance of educating the OP about the effects of emergency contraception and sexual health in general.

The OP was asking a question because he was concerned. He wasn't asking to be lectured. He's not the first person in history to have unprotected sex and won't be the last.

Nobody lectured the OP, though he could do with being sat down and given an education. Google in front of him and he doesn't know how to look up the details of his nearest STI clinic?

OP, what's done is done. Get yourself to an STI clinic to get tested as recommend your partner does too. Then you can put your mind at rest.

I think he's done enough "recommending" for one day tbh. I'm loathe to Jeremy Kyle the thread, but honestly OP - put something on the end of it, as much for your own sake as the girl you're with.

The Corinthian

unprotected sex wrote: »

Hi guys i had unprotected sex last night with a girl whos on the pill she said she was fine and there was no need for the morning after pill i made her get one today what are the chances she might end up with a child now ?

The chances of her getting pregnant, if she's on the pill (and taking it properly) are most likely very, very small. Where it comes to pregnancy, you didn't actually have unprotected sex, as the pill is protection in that case. Where it comes to STI's, well that's another story...

Still, coercing her to take the morning after pill the next day was, well words fail me, but would likely get me infracted if they didn't.

She was comfortable with having sex without a condom, as seemingly were you at the time. Doing a u-turn on this the next day and demanding she imbue what is fairly powerful medication just so you can feel more at ease (remember, she was taking a contraceptive, hence her ease) is a remarkably selfish thing to do.

Personally, I hope for her sake that this experience will cause her to reassess her involvement with you, as egocentrism is rarely limited to one area of a person's behaviour; and that this in turn causes you to reasess your own behaviour towards others.

Neyite

Comeonenow wrote: »

It's a wonder that people post in here at all when they get a lecture from the morally untouchable like the poster above.

The OP was asking a question because he was concerned. He wasn't asking to be lectured. He's not the first person in history to have unprotected sex and won't be the last.

OP, what's done is done. Get yourself to an STI clinic to get tested as recommend your partner does too. Then you can put your mind at rest.

*polishes halo*

I pointed it out because he seems to have no problem making someone he barely knows suffer the embarrassment of going up to a pharmacist in a chemist with other customers milling around, to answer questions about her menstrual cycle, her sex life, her blood pressure, maybe her weight, any other medications she is on, any other illnesses or allergies that she might have. Then the pharmacist goes into excruciating detail on how the MAP works, potential/likely side effects and how and when they should be taken.

But he is too embarrassed to go to his GP or even to google STI clinics. So one rule for him, another for her? That's nice.

Czarcasm

Neyite wrote: »

But he is too embarrassed to go to his GP or even to google STI clinics. So one rule for him, another for her? That's nice.

There's really no excuse for embarrassment when a pack of condoms can be bought in Tesco, paid for at self service, for less than the price of a pint!

Semele

It still shocks me to realise how ignorant of contraception people can be. If she's on the pill, it's not unprotected sex. If you have anything to be worried about, it would be an STI and the best way to avoid that worry is a condom. But no, you don't use a condom and then have a totally disproportionate panic. Are you going to make every girl you ever have sex with have emergency meds the next day just to be on the safe side?

Tramps Like Us

The thing is that you can't always believe someone when they say that they are on the pill.

Theres some doubt here because the pharmacist gave her the MAP and she took it


Either way OP, you should be ok, but it's worth getting an STD test. You can always go to a new GP just make an appointment with some other GP, simple as. You dont even have to make that GP your main GP.

woodchuck

Tramps Like Us wrote: »

The thing is that you can't always believe someone when they say that they are on the pill.

Which is why the OP should have taken precautions too at the time instead of forcing her to take the MAP afterwards...

The Corinthian

Tramps Like Us wrote: »

The thing is that you can't always believe someone when they say that they are on the pill.

For a one-night-stand or fling, sure (indeed, you should be thinking about STI's with someone you don't know that well).

What depresses me is that increasingly on threads here the same level of mistrust is being suggested for wives and partners of years.