April 2014 - what should be done by now?

stargazer 68

Folks

Sis is getting married in early April and I am helping her with planning etc. So far venue, dress, bm dresses, band, invitations,transport and cake are sorted. She is very horizontal with stuff - time will wait for her type of person.

What should be done by now or are we fairly on top of things and the rest can wait until after Christmas?

lazygal

Celebrant and registering intent? Order and address invites ready for posting?


Also photos/DVD, can be difficult to get the ones you want.

stargazer 68

lazygal wrote: »

Celebrant and registering intent? Order and address invites ready for posting?

Priest is the grooms cousin - intent is done
Invites have been collected. Getting her to do her guest list is the biggest hurdle at the minute! Can't address them if we don't know who they are inviting!

lazygal

Guest list needs to be sorted. How can they budget costs if they don't know how many will be there?

stargazer 68

lazygal wrote: »

Guest list needs to be sorted. How can they budget costs if they don't know how many will be there?

They know how many they can invite just deciding who to invite is proving the problem. He doesn't seem to realise that you can't just tell people to come along and lo and behold there is a chair and food!!

January

Have they registered intent with the Civil Registrations Office or just the priest?

Flowers? Booking someone to do hair and make up?

stargazer 68

January wrote: »

Have they registered intent with the Civil Registrations Office or just the priest?

Flowers? Booking someone to do hair and make up?

Yep the CRO is done. I have a list of stuff still to be done

Invitations, flowers, hair and makeup, mens suits, etc but should these be done by now or am I just fussing?

January

Flowers and hair and make up should definitely be booked, especially if you have a preference on who to use. Men's suits are not much of an issue until closer to the wedding.

stargazer 68

January wrote: »

Flowers and hair and make up should definitely be booked, especially if you have a preference on who to use. Men's suits are not much of an issue until closer to the wedding.

Thats what I thought. She is getting married during lent and some churches won't let you put flowers up. We were going to use lanterns and candles instead but can't organise that as she hasn't rung the church to find out! Sooooo laid back! Wants a particular choir for the church but they won't take a booking without a deposit - so that hasn't been done either. And no they aren't short of funds - it's simply laid backness!! :rolleyes:

clint_silver

Invites should really start going out by now I would have thought.

Have they decided on menu at the hotel?

Dont underestimate the suits if they've got particular taste. Get them ordered now, the guys then have enough time to go and get fitted.

seosamh1980

clint_silver wrote: »

Invites should really start going out by now I would have thought.

Have they decided on menu at the hotel?

Dont underestimate the suits if they've got particular taste. Get them ordered now, the guys then have enough time to go and get fitted.

Invites 4 months before? No way, unless it's abroad! Are photographer/video sorted OP? They need to be sorted early.

stargazer 68

seosamh1980 wrote: »

Invites 4 months before? No way, unless it's abroad! Are photographer/video sorted OP? They need to be sorted early.

Invitations are printed and rsvp date is on them so they need to be sent out just after Xmas. Photographer is booked - not having a video.

lazygal

I think posting invites 8-10 weeks before is fine.

OP, I know you've said you're helping with planning, but really and truly if the couple themselves can't be bothered finalising the guest list, don't be stressing out. Let them do this kind of thing themselves. Let them get organised. Maybe the reason your sister is laid back to the point of not really getting her own wedding sorted is because there's always someone there to bail her out when she can't get organised. What is the groom doing for the wedding, is he as laid back as the bride?

Moonbeam

Is all the music sorted and decided?

stargazer 68

lazygal wrote: »

Let them do this kind of thing themselves. Let them get organised. Maybe the reason your sister is laid back to the point of not really getting her own wedding sorted is because there's always someone there to bail her out when she can't get organised. What is the groom doing for the wedding, is he as laid back as the bride?

You are absolutely right. I havent mentioned anything about the wedding for a few weeks now and they have got no further with it. They were supposed to get the priest around to discuss the service so the mass booklets can be done and never did it.

He is doing absolutely nothing - will turn up on the day. Once Christmas is over she is going to get into a right flap but it's not like she hasn't been told! I know Im a planner for everything with lists etc so maybe that's why Im getting in a tizz but I know what's going to happen in a month or so time!

flikflak

He is doing nothing and you are running around sorting lists and things? Hmmm Whose wedding is this?

Take a step back. Are they going to blame you if anything does not go to plan? You might like to help with a few things but worrying about the whole event is not for a sibling to take on IMO. Its their wedding let them sort it out.

Ms2011

I'm getting married the last week in March, I have the following done:
Dress Bought, though still some alterations to be done
Flowergirl Dressed
Bridesmaid Dressed
Cake Ordered
Intent To Marry Done
Rings Bought
Honeymoon Booked
Flowers Ordered
Venue Booked
Invites Sent last week
Playlist for DJ Done
Photographer Booked
Candy Cart Booked
Bridesmaid/Groomsman Gifts Bought
Make Up/Hair/Tan etc. Booked (trial in Jan)
Readings, Music etc. Sorted for Ceremony
Ceremony Booklet Done

Still to do:
Suits for Groom, Groomsman, Page Boy
Alteration to mine & Bridesmaids dresses
Finalise menu etc.

Think that's all:-)

grainuaile

Holy mother of god.
I'm getting married that week too and our of your list I have done:

Ms2011 wrote: »

I'm getting married the last week in March, I have the following done:
Dress Bought, though still some alterations to be done
Flowergirl Dressed
Bridesmaid Dressed
Venue Booked
Photographer Booked
Readings, Music etc. Sorted for Ceremony
Ceremony Booklet Done


Suits for Groom, Groomsman, Page Boy
Alteration to mine & Bridesmaids dresses
Finalise menu etc.

oh god look how short my list is. panic stations ladies.:eek:

Ms2011

I found a "what to do by what stage" list in the back of a wedding book I read & used that as a guide. I had to, I'm the type of person who needs to get stuck in a.s.a.p. & get things organised or I'll just become overwhelmed, others are much more laid back. Neither is the better option, it's just whatever suits you.