Now decision is made, help needed

afterglow

Hi boardsies

Thanks to a recent thread I posted here about christmas and how to spend it, it's now been decided that I will spend it with my mum. I know it is for the best, even though when I told my bf I was spending christmas at home this year, he said it won't be the same without me etc, which was nice of him to say and I feel completely the same.
my question is now though, how do I get through christmas at home? I am absolutely dreading it, even though I know my mum is looking forward to it, and probably my siblings two, if they know, well even if they don't know yet, they'll be delighted when they do know. It's just my mum's husband I'm nervous about and don't know how to deal with.
He is a functioning alcoholic, doesn't drink all the time, but when he does, christmas for example, he will drink for maybe 4 or 5 days straight, without stopping, if anyone says anything there's a big argument.
I would love the idea of spending christmas at home if it wasn't for this....
How can I get through it without misery and the sense of dread I am already feeling ruining the occasion?
Thanks and advice appreciated as I really am dreading having to go home for christmas and it really is only a short while away now.

Merkin

Not being funny here Afterglow but a lot of kind people here on PI already took a lot of time out to read your previous thread and gave quite a few pages of advice and sympathy. You then went against that advice and decided to go home for Christmas so starting a new thread on the same issue that there have now been at least three threads on is really very unfair to posters in my opinion. If you wish to disregard advice that's fine but I don't understand why you're coming back for more, sorry....

Meauldsegosha

OP this may seem harsh but I make no apologies for it. You made the choice to spend Christmas at home with your family including your step-father. How do you get through the day? You be civil to your step-father as you have made the choice to be in his home, spend as much time as you can with your mother and siblings and just get on with the day.

As Merkin said above you got a lot of good advice is your other thread. The one thing I have noticed is all your threads is that you portray yourself as the victim all the time however you were in those various situations because of choices you made. We all make choices all the time some work out some don't but we don't all look for someone to blame or look for sympathy.

So maybe you will have a miserable Christmas but it's not because of your step-father it's because you made the choice to spend in his home.

Taltos

OP - please don't post here on this issue again.
The last few threads on this had all it could say on this matter. It may benefit you at this point seeing someone professionally as I think the advice here has run its course and there will be nothing new to add.

Regards
Taltos