Fall out

Salt001

So about 6 months ago myself and my husband fell out with a friend of ours.
She was in our house, quite drunk and told us both to F**K Off. I would have been very good friends with her but over the last 18 months I found she was getting more and more demanding.
She used to ring me every single night for a report, I say report because thats what it was, a report on how her day went.
This eventually tapered off to once or twice a week mainly because my husbands job changed and he is now home in the evenings.
It was always about her,her,her. She would ask me how I was then barely listen for 30 secs. and then off she went, she would actually cut me off mid sentence to tell me something about her day.
She is a good person but I have to say that I don't miss her one little bit.Those weekly phone calls were draining the life out of me. However a mutual friend has now gotten engaged and we are going to run into our ex-friend at the wedding or even at pre- wedding events.
What to do?., Should we try to re-establish contact before hand .

December2012

Personally I wouldn't.

Just be civil if she says anything, friendly even.

A friends occasion is not really an appropriate time to have an emotional situation.

Salt001

December2012 wrote: »

Personally I wouldn't.

Just be civil if she says anything, friendly even.

A friends occasion is not really an appropriate time to have an emotional situation.

That is my point, should we try to build a bridge and get over it before then?.
However we have absolutely no interest in rehashing things, or going back to being her shoulder to cry on.

Merkin

No, just be civil and polite but keep your distance.

Raminahobbin

Unless you actually want her back in your life, I'd just do as the above posters say and be civil. There is absolutely no need for anything more.

No contact with her until you're actually in the same room for the wedding, and then only if she approaches you. Don't discuss anything personal, just talk about the wedding if you have to, then excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or speak to someone else once you feel your tolerance waning.

Salt001

Raminahobbin wrote: »

Unless you actually want her back in your life, I'd just do as the above posters say and be civil. There is absolutely no need for anything more.

No contact with her until you're actually in the same room for the wedding, and then only if she approaches you. Don't discuss anything personal, just talk about the wedding if you have to, then excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or speak to someone else once you feel your tolerance waning.

Yes I'm of that mind myself. I suppose its just the embarsment factor really.

December2012

I don't think there's any need. Just let things take their course.