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  • 30-11-2013 8:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Ok so my fiance and I live in the city and we rent a nice apartment. We are happy together and plan to have children. My career didn't take off, but I have a part-time job that I like well enough and a good social life (I attend classes, volunteer, etc). We're both 31. He's always been a country man and I've always preferred the city, but so far we've just gone along with things and enjoyed being together. The thing is he has land that he recently inherited from his uncle. He wants us to move there and build a house. He thinks we shouldn't be renting when children arrive and we'd be able to afford a nicer place out there. It's about 30 minutes drive away. Its nice but there's not much out there - a medium sized village about a ten minute drive away. He says that if I want to stay in the city we'll stay, but I know it's his dream to build his own place. I keep catching him watching those programmes where people build their dream homes. He says he'll support me and I don't need to work but I'm more worried about being isolated, especially when we have children. He doesn't mind the idea of the commute into his work, but for the amount of money I get it would hardly be worth it.
    Can anyone tell me what it's like to live in the countryside? What are the pluses and minuses? We're getting married in June and I'm freaking out because we seem to have different ideas about where we want to grow old...


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  • #2
    jlm29
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    unregistered wrote: »
    Ok so my fiance and I live in the city and we rent a nice apartment. We are happy together and plan to have children. My career didn't take off, but I have a part-time job that I like well enough and a good social life (I attend classes, volunteer, etc). We're both 31. He's always been a country man and I've always preferred the city, but so far we've just gone along with things and enjoyed being together. The thing is he has land that he recently inherited from his uncle. He wants us to move there and build a house. He thinks we shouldn't be renting when children arrive and we'd be able to afford a nicer place out there. It's about 30 minutes drive away. Its nice but there's not much out there - a medium sized village about a ten minute drive away. He says that if I want to stay in the city we'll stay, but I know it's his dream to build his own place. I keep catching him watching those programmes where people build their dream homes. He says he'll support me and I don't need to work but I'm more worried about being isolated, especially when we have children. He doesn't mind the idea of the commute into his work, but for the amount of money I get it would hardly be worth it.
    Can anyone tell me what it's like to live in the countryside? What are the pluses and minuses? We're getting married in June and I'm freaking out because we seem to have different ideas about where we want to grow old...

    Everyone will have their own opinion, but just because I like living in the countryside, doesn't mean you will.
    Could you look for somewhere to rent in the area for six months, to give you the opportunity to figure out the pluses and minuses for yourself?


  • #3
    thegreatgonzo
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    It's very hard to give you a proper answer. There are things about living in the country that I love and hate, and same goes for the city. Country villages vary enormously in character and amenities so I think it's very good advice above that you rent a place for a while to see how you feel about it. The big question I think is can you drive? If you live in the country you really have to have your own car or you'll go mad. A 30 minute commute from the city doesn't sound so bad though.


  • #4
    DoozerT6
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    +1 on renting before you buy. And also +1 on having your own car, as a 10-minute drive from the nearest village is probably an impractical distance to walk with shopping bags etc. If he wants to build on a fairly isolated plot of land, then rent a fairly isolated house if possible. If you rent in the village for six months and then move out to where there are no neighbours and no street-lights etc, you may find it's a whole different kettle of fish.

    Also, think a few years down the road - if children enter into the equation, how easy will it be to get them to and from school/after school activities/friends houses/birthday parties etc... how would you entertain bored teenagers if they were unable to get to friends houses or any activities without Mam or Dad ferrying them?

    I grew up in the countryside and these issues did affect me....just food for thought.


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