Single at 30

personaltrainer

and scared!!!
been a yr since last relationship... I think i fall for guys too easy always care too much and send them flying!!!
Is 30 old to be single??

DonnaDarko09

personaltrainer wrote: »

and scared!!!
been a yr since last relationship... I think i fall for guys too easy always care too much and send them flying!!!
Is 30 old to be single??

30 is the new 20. Calm down.

dannyc31

jesus OP this is'nt 1960. 30 is young in anyones book. seriously you should'nt be stressing out about these things, who is telling you that 30 is too old to be single? probably someone who just settled for less because they didnt want to get to 30 and be still single and are now not happy.

chill out enjoy your life and wait for someone else to come along who is suitable.

wirelessdude01

Say the fact that your worrying about being single at 30 is probably the rel reason why lads run away. We can sense these things!! alm down and relax.

wotzgoingon

30 and single is not too bad. I'm male 29 and single. Doesn't bother me too much, but I kinda know where you're coming from. I remember when I was a child talking to my mother and asking what age did she get married and have kids and she said early 20's and remember saying you were so old.

fungun

yep, relax, nothing more off putting than a woman worrying about why she is single. Makes a guy think. Relax, have fun, be happy in yourself - nothing more attractive than that

LegacyUser

I would agree with the above posts. I think to meet someone you have to be happy in yourself and with your own life.
You need to stop looking at every new man you meet as this could be my husband, the father of my children ect. I would also stop worrying about what other people think or say to you about being single at 30. Some woman think they are nothing without a husband or boyfriend.

I know several woman who rushed into living with men, got pregnant to keep a man and got married because other people expected them to do this.
I have seen people being unhappy because they are with the wrong person and they can't split up due to a lack of money. I know woman who partners/husbands have left them with children and very little money because they met another woman.

If you want to meet some one see if you can get involved with some groups, organisations ect to broaden your circle of friends. So what if you are not married at 30 with a few kids.
For all you know the so called happy couple out there might not be as happy as you think.
If your friends are mostly in couples or are married don't believe that everyday is more wonderful than the day before because all couples have good and bad days.

thegreatgonzo

I'm 36 and single. It's grand! I'm much happier than when I was 28 and with going out with an idiot.

loalae

I'm 28 now and a few years ago I was desperately looking around for someone to make sure I wouldn't be 30 and single. I put up with some dreadful behaviour as a result.

I've let the idea that I NEED a man go now and I'm having a lot more fun, doing a lot more things I enjoy and meeting a lot more people - including men. Once you allow yourself to be ok about being single life becomes easier. Being 30 and single is not the worst thing in the world. Being any age and in a relationship with someone who is not right for you is a hell of a lot worse!

But I've found that in pursuing my interests (dance, music, sci-fi, and running) I've come into contact with people I would never have met otherwise. Is there anything you like to do that could introduce new people into your social life?

Merkin

I don't know how you could think that thirty is old or how you could possibly think that you HAVE to be settled at thirty....it's bizarre :eek:

If you continue with this attitude then the chances are you will panic buy and that is NOT a good idea. Far better to be single than clutching desperately on to the first bloke who comes along for the sake of it.

I'm the first to admit I was ridiculously picky when hoping to meet someone but that's because I wasn't going to lower my standards, I didn't give a fig about being single and had a ball, I wasn't going to panic buy and then regret it. No way, have seen that wayyyy too often. So I fell hopelessly in love and married at thirty six to someone I could only have dreamt of which I think is a great age to have that happen; you sure as hell know your own mind, don't suffer fools and ultimately know what you want. At thirty I was just out of a very LTR with a complete numpty.

Sounds to me like you're 'falling' way too hard for every man who pays you a jot of attention. Be a bit more discerning, chill the hell out and realise that at thirty you should be having a ball rather than taking on the role of some desperate Jane Austen character tripping over yourself to be married off because you're simply so ancient....!

SpitfireIV

personaltrainer wrote: »

Is 30 old to be single??

I bloody well hope not, I hit that number myself recently and am single!! But, like someone else alluded to recently, 30 is the new 20, and, I'm just getting on with things; more important things at this moment in time.

Dont fret it, just chillax

Shadylou

Better alone than badly accompanied I say

Topcat1234

My brother met his gal when they were both 33. They married at 35. Had first baby at 36. Second is on the way they are both 38. Her sister got married after them and her baby is due. She is 40. Both couples are VERY happy!

AnonMouse

Isn't it better to be single, at any age, than being in an unhappy relationship because society thinks you should be?

There is loads of time for relationships. Enjoy your life and the right guy will come along when you least expect it

banie01

personaltrainer wrote: »

and scared!!!
been a yr since last relationship... I think i fall for guys too easy always care too much and send them flying!!!
Is 30 old to be single??

OP, Don't get hung up on your age versus your relationship status or completed milestone events
30 is young, its not a cut off.
Focus on finding someone who's right for you, who makes you happy
Rather than finding someone for right now because thats what you are ''Supposed'' to do.

As a quick example, I'm 34 now....
I was widowed at 27, lost the woman I'd spent over 11yrs with.
If age and milestones mattered....
Surely that shouldn't have happened to us until we were in our 60's? And sure I should've gone 1st even cos don't women live longer

Look what I'm trying to say is, don't judge your life by someone else's timescale.
Its your life, you get one live it as you choose.
As you recognise yourself sometimes us fella's get a bit flighty if we perceive it to be getting serious too quickly, just relax.
Let things develop.
Relationships aren't a race, its not about getting ''There'' fast.
Its about getting ''there'' with the right person and enjoying the journey and learning about each other on the way
Relax and enjoy your life.
Don't race into a relationship or try and keep a bad one going because you feel society demands it.
Or because at ''your age'' its what you should be doing.

Addle

As a singleton in my mid 30s, to me it's more about why I'm single as opposed to when.

ash23

I'm 31 and single. Have had 2 long term relationships end and to be honest I'm happy enough either way, in a good relationship or single. What I'm not happy with is an unhappy relationship. Because those are awful and cause untold hurt and anguish.

So for me 21 or 31 or 41, I don't really care. I'm waiting for the right person and the right time rather than getting into something that's wrong for me. I'm more interested in wanting to be with the person than be in a relationship.

Thirty shmirty- just enjoy being single and take it as it comes.