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Life Stresses

  • 28-11-2013 9:32am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Im a recent college graduate who came out of college straight into a job in Ireland. I am aware of how lucky this is in the current economic climate. I was excited about the job and started working away fine.

    I was in college away from home and did a erasmus abroad for a semester, so havent lived at home in a long time. I had to move to a different part of Ireland though for the job, which I was fine with. Its an ok place (not great) but its fine, and it was grand at the start.

    But over the last few months (Ive been working for 5 months), Ive really started to dislike the job. Ive grown to dislike the place Im living and the stress and anxiety has been growing consistently in me over the last few weeks especially. I am finding it hard to sleep due to stress and anxiety and think Im getting a little bit depressed.

    In college and growing up I played soccer. I played for a new team last year of college and had a brilliannt time. Confidence was good, and this permeated through to every aspect of my life. I was happy. But I signed for a new team in the new town and hate it. I only keep it up in the hope I get some of the old confidence back and start enjoying it again. And this complete lack of confidence I think has reiterated my struggles with the job.

    Ive thought about looking for a new job, but because ive only been here a short time Im worried that getting a new job could be tough. Im really at a loss what to do. I keep thinking that if im not happy I should change something. Im just trying to figure out what or how extreme a change I should make.


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  • #2
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,514 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    It is hard to adjust to a full-time work life after college. You aren't surrounded by friends, people are of all different ages, possibly mostly older than you - it's a big adjustment.

    You have also moved house and to a new part of the country - two very stressful things to do. And you have only been there 5 months, I'd consider that still very much the settling in period.

    Are there parts of your job that you find difficult or ill-equipped to complete or deal with? If this is a source of anxiety and stress for you, it might be a good idea to speak to your manager and explain to them what is happening or ask for guidance. It would be better to ask now and improve your performance (showing initiative) rather than continue to hope you are doing ok (if that's what it is!).

    Regarding the football, do you not get along with the team in the same way or are you not playing as well as you used to? Perhaps the social life associated with it is not as busy as you were used to. Whatever it is, could you try out some other sports or teams in the area?

    It is a very brave thing to move to a new place for a new job - congratulations on getting a job straight out of college too, that is no mean feat these days. Hopefully these are just teething problems in your new place and you will feel settled and less stressed soon.


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