How often do you call each other?

JaneeMack

How often do you call each other?

I usually text my OH throughout the day and before bed but I don't really call him nor does he. We would call each other maybe 1-2 times during the week.

Do you call each other everyday?

ElleEm

JaneeMack wrote: »

How often do you call each other?

I usually text my OH throughout the day and before bed but I don't really call him nor does he. We would call each other maybe 1-2 times during the week.

Do you call each other everyday?

Every relationship is different, so as long as you are both happy with your level of contact, noone else matters.

LegacyUser

As ElleEm Said every relationship is different, and it also depends on where you are, and what you want.

I was going out with my ex for 4 years, and we only ever saw eachother every weekend despite living only a few miles from eachother, and both of us living alone. We didn't even talk everyday on the phone, but most evenings we would call eachother. To be honest I think we both fell into a 'comfortable zone' and didn't make a effort with eachother, and we both had full and busy lives but separately from eachother. The relationship ended shortly after I questioned this situation, and I think it was just not meant to be.

My current OH lived about an hours drive away when we started seeing eachother, and within about 2 months we were living together. That is the other extreme and would be far too soon for some people (or even me with someone else) , but with OH it just felt right and we are still going strong two years later and personally I couldn't be happier.

I would say each situation is different, but I think the most important factor is that you (both of you) are happy with your current situation, and if you aren't don't be afraid to mention it to your OH.

MissFlitworth

We live together but before that we never called each other unless one of us was abroad, that's what worked for us because we both hate phone calls, different strokes though as other people would hate that sort of a set up.

AnonMouse

I'm not a huge fan of talking on the phone, so we only ring each other during the day to ask if anything is needed in the house when we are on our way home from work etc.

This suits me fine. My last relationship, my ex gf expected me to ring her all the time. It used to drive me mad as we'd have nothing to talk about when we met up.

As others have said though, different strokes for different folks

LegacyUser

ElleEm wrote: »

Every relationship is different, so as long as you are both happy with your level of contact, noone else matters.

I disagree. It's fine to have a low level of contact until something nasty happens, whether it's a stressful time for one of you or a fight between you (doesn't even have to be a big one).

While I'd feel perfectly happy with a text or two every day and a phone call twice a week, the reality is that that's not building the relationship. It's much easier for small problems to grow large if you're not speaking every day.

My personal experience is that even if you feel happy with less, when the **** hits the fan you need to have a regular baseline level of communication, and texts just don't cut it.

JaneeMack

JaneeMack wrote: »

How often do you call each other?

I usually text my OH throughout the day and before bed but I don't really call him nor does he. We would call each other maybe 1-2 times during the week.

Do you call each other everyday?

OP is this a personal issue for you?

osarusan

married 7 years with 2 kids.

Call each other rarely (once a week?), text once or twice a week, usually with messages like 'buy broccoli on way home.'

And people say romance is dead!

ElleEm

AdviceBunny wrote: »

I disagree. It's fine to have a low level of contact until something nasty happens, whether it's a stressful time for one of you or a fight between you (doesn't even have to be a big one).

While I'd feel perfectly happy with a text or two every day and a phone call twice a week, the reality is that that's not building the relationship. It's much easier for small problems to grow large if you're not speaking every day.

My personal experience is that even if you feel happy with less, when the **** hits the fan you need to have a regular baseline level of communication, and texts just don't cut it.

But if both parties are happy with a couple of texts a day and a phone call once or twice a week, (I presume they are seeing each other when possible too), then their relationship isn't affected by the contact level. I am sure that if something happened where one of the party wanted more support or whatever, they would speak more. There are no hard and fast rules. Myself and my boyfriend speak a ridiculous amount, and have done since we got together. We would text a bit and speak on the phone a few times a week, and that is after living together six years. That would drive some people mad, but it works for us.

JaneeMack

bluewolf wrote: »

OP is this a personal issue for you?

No it's not really an issue but just a curiosity more from my part.

We spend Fri-Sun together and see each other during the week whenever time allows.

MissFlitworth

AdviceBunny wrote: »

While I'd feel perfectly happy with a text or two every day and a phone call twice a week, the reality is that that's not building the relationship. It's much easier for small problems to grow large if you're not speaking every day.

But, unless you're long distance, you'd be communicating more than a text a day and the occasional phone call because you'd be seeing each other. We never called each other but we spoke on IM a lot and saw each other twice a week. A phone call every day wouldn't suit us. I still think the right level of communication is the one you're both happy with.

JaneeMack

JaneeMack wrote: »

No it's not really an issue but just a curiosity more from my part.

We spend Fri-Sun together and see each other during the week whenever time allows.

In that case as this forum is not for general discussion I will need to close this thread

thanks