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Advice on maintenance

  • 24-11-2013 11:33pm
    #1
    djbtipp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Hi,

    I left my wife about 16 months ago, we have 2 kids together.
    The marraige was on the rocks for some years but in the end i had an affair and could not live a lie anymore about being both unhappy with married life and also the affair.
    We attended mediation this year and agreed a financial situation that probably suited her moreso than me. It was to be reviewed 3 months later but she pulled the plug on it.
    We now deal with solicitors - i am paying half the mortgage, healthcare, house insurance and household charges...i also pay 800 euro per month in maintenance even though the kids are split 50/50 between the two of us.
    Out of my salary i then have to pay for my own accomodataion and utilities and day to day expenses.

    Do any of you have any experience or advice as to how much i should be paying....personally i feel i am being taken to the cleaners here.

    All advice welcome.


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  • #2
    stephencc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭stephencc


    I don't mean to jump on the bandwagon here but I have recently split from my girlfriend. We have a beautiful baby girl(3) and I just want to get advice on maintenance.
    We both work and agreed I would take her at the weekends and split things 50-50 but when I got the costs they included some for electricity and heating.
    I have no problem paying for the maintenance but she is living in her family home in Tipp and the creche we are paying for is cheaper their too.
    She has already said she will be moving back to Cork in the next few months which will increase the creche price which is what I am worried about.

    Should elec and heating even get included in this?
    Also, if she meets someone else and they move in together is she still expecting this payment?

    I obviously pay for everything for her at the weekends and have no problem paying for what I think is reasonable but wouldn't the elec and heating be on anyway?


  • #3
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Two points.

    1st Hijacking another's thread can result in a ban - stephen please ensure you read the charter of whatever forum you are posting in next time.

    2nd None of us know all of your circumstances or any other inputs the courts would consider. Also per our charter asking for legal advice, which this is, isn't permitted here. All we can do is provide moral advice and guidance, but when it comes down to how much should I be paying - no-one but your solicitor and the courts can help you with that one.

    Thread closed.


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