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where to live after a breakup

  • 15-11-2013 4:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am on the possible verge of a breakup with my boyfriend. We rent a house together. I am at the stage where I need time apart, maybe for two weeks, just to make plans.

    Things are up in the air at the moment. I don't want to ruin any chance of reconciliation as at the moment I feel numb, and I know that that can translate as being a heartless b!tch, when actually it is a self preservation thing. If I think about it properly, I will break.

    I have friends and family who would welcome me in, but I don't want to acknowledge yet what is happening. I also don't really know what is happening and I guess that I really would like all this to get fixed - but I don't have so much hope ... I just don't want to talk about it with people, I don't want to use hugs from people if I end up back with him.

    WwWch leads me to my question. Is there anywhere I can go to live or rent for very cheap for two weeks? I don't need to take everything, bit it does need to be cheap. Money stress is a lot of the reason why we are in this position. Can anyone who was in a position like this before offer advice? I am based in Dublin. Thank-you.


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  • #2
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Could you go stay with family on the pretence of some maintenance / repairs work being done in your place?


  • #3
    Typer Monkey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 941 ✭✭✭Typer Monkey


    Could you stay with one friend who you ask not to tell anyone else? I understand not wanting to tell everyone your business but there's no shame in your situation and it can help to bounce it off someone outside your relationship whose opinion you trust.

    If you don't want to tell anyone the reasons your relationship is in trouble because you're afraid that they'd judge you for staying, then maybe you have your answer on whether you should break up right there


  • #4
    strobe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,872 ✭✭✭strobe


    moving out wrote: »
    I am on the possible verge of a breakup with my boyfriend. We rent a house together. I am at the stage where I need time apart, maybe for two weeks, just to make plans.

    Things are up in the air at the moment. I don't want to ruin any chance of reconciliation as at the moment I feel numb, and I know that that can translate as being a heartless b!tch, when actually it is a self preservation thing. If I think about it properly, I will break.

    I have friends and family who would welcome me in, but I don't want to acknowledge yet what is happening. I also don't really know what is happening and I guess that I really would like all this to get fixed - but I don't have so much hope ... I just don't want to talk about it with people, I don't want to use hugs from people if I end up back with him.

    WwWch leads me to my question. Is there anywhere I can go to live or rent for very cheap for two weeks? I don't need to take everything, bit it does need to be cheap. Money stress is a lot of the reason why we are in this position. Can anyone who was in a position like this before offer advice? I am based in Dublin. Thank-you.

    When you say you don't want to ruin the chance of a reconciliation what do you mean?

    Do you want the relationship to end or not?

    Do you mean you want to break up with your bf but reconcile and be just friends afterwards?

    Do you mean you want to break up with him, then think about if it was the right thing to do and leave a window open to reverse your decision if you feel it was a mistake afterwards?


  • #5
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,914 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    strobe makes valid points.. do you just want a break but want to come back to him and continue your relationship?

    Why only 2 weeks? What happens after 2 weeks if you decide you don't want to be with him? Where do you live then?

    I think you need to try work out whatever it is you need to work out. Renting a place for 2 weeks sounds like a very knee-jerk (and impractical) reaction to something. What if you take a break for 2 weeks, and he decides he doesn't want you back. If you walk out once, you might do it again? Would he be willing to take the chance?

    I'm not sure if a 2 week rental is possible. Maybe you could contact B&Bs and ask them for a good rate? Or trust and confide in 1 good friend. I know you don't want people knowing your business, but if you had a friend going through something similar, would you like them to feel they could confide in you, or would you prefer if they kept it to themselves?


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