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Left out of events

  • 11-11-2013 4:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I have been with my OH for almost two years, we are both in our early twenties. Over this time I have rarely been asked to any events by my other half(I recall one event in which I more or less had to invite myself to). I haven't as much events to go to as he is very into music and sports which are a huge part of his outtings. I rarely get invited as he states he doesn't want to be there anyways. I am feeling very left out as we are supposed to be apart of eachothers lives and I'm feeling like I've been left out of this part of his life.

    Any thoughts/advice would be appreciated, thanks :)


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  • #2
    Tasden
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    FeelingNeglected wrote: »
    I have been with my OH for almost two years, we are both in our early twenties. Over this time I have rarely been asked to any events by my other half(I recall one event in which I more or less had to invite myself to). I haven't as much events to go to as he is very into music and sports which are a huge part of his outtings. I rarely get invited as he states he doesn't want to be there anyways. I am feeling very left out as we are supposed to be apart of eachothers lives and I'm feeling like I've been left out of this part of his life.

    Any thoughts/advice would be appreciated, thanks :)

    Do ye live together or spend alot of time together? I'd see his outings with just his friends as a good thing if you do. Obviously partners can integrate with each others friends and stuff but its generally good for both of ye to have your own separate interests and friends.
    Also, if other girlfriends are not going then he won't want to "impose" his gf on a lads outing.
    If its social events that other guys are bringing their girlfriends to then I suppose its fair to wonder why he hasn't asked you along but I know some people like to keep these things separate to have an escape kinda thing. Not in a bad way- its just a time that's their own I guess. I'd be like this- I enjoy alot of my own time with the girls. I'd rarely combine the two actually! But my boyfriend is the same so it suits us.
    I doubt its a reflection on you or his friends anyway!


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