Not sure how to go about getting a girl I like

LegacyUser

There's this girl from work I developed feelings for, I am not sure if she feels the same way about me. I know for sure that she likes but I'm not sure if there is any romantic interest there.I was out with the work crowd on Saturday night and I was getting good feedback from her, I talked to her for a good bit and I got the signs there may be interest, she was quite touchy feely with me and I made her laugh a lot, actually that's why I really like her , I find it very easy to make her laugh, she even tried to get me to go out dancing with her but the wuss that I was didn't.
As I was quite drunk at the time I let it slip to one of her female friends who is also a friend of mine that I had a thing for her, she told me she would never had suspected that, but it must have been obvious as I have always been teasing her playfully etc.

Anyway I was pissed off all day the next day because I didn't make a move and felt my chance with her was not gone,that was until we had a bit of a chat on FB and now she wants to meet up for coffee, I'm wondering now if her friend has told her that I like her?, we have agreed to meet up but I'm wondering if instead of coffee,would she would prefer to go for some food and drinks .

What ye reckon of A the situation and B what I should do about it?

LegacyUser

Maybe the friend told/hinted, or maybe she just wanted to make a move after getting along well on the night out. Sounds like she's interested anyway, if I were you I'd stick to the coffee, assuming all goes well, at the end say "this was great...we should hang out again...how about blah blah" and organise the food/drinks then.

Good luck

beks101

Meet her for coffee, flirt your ass off & then ask her out again, this time for dinner & drinks.

Be your funny self, lots of physical contact & eye contact and if it feels right at the end, take the bull by the horns and kiss her. Sounds like you're onto a winner here

Timeless12

what should I do? wrote: »

There's this girl from work I developed feelings for, I am not sure if she feels the same way about me. I know for sure that she likes but I'm not sure if there is any romantic interest there.I was out with the work crowd on Saturday night and I was getting good feedback from her, I talked to her for a good bit and I got the signs there may be interest, she was quite touchy feely with me and I made her laugh a lot, actually that's why I really like her , I find it very easy to make her laugh, she even tried to get me to go out dancing with her but the wuss that I was didn't.
As I was quite drunk at the time I let it slip to one of her female friends who is also a friend of mine that I had a thing for her, she told me she would never had suspected that, but it must have been obvious as I have always been teasing her playfully etc.

Anyway I was pissed off all day the next day because I didn't make a move and felt my chance with her was not gone,that was until we had a bit of a chat on FB and now she wants to meet up for coffee, I'm wondering now if her friend has told her that I like her?, we have agreed to meet up but I'm wondering if instead of coffee,would she would prefer to go for some food and drinks .

What ye reckon of A the situation and B what I should do about it?

By telling her friend that you like your work colleague you basically told your work colleague that you like her. I think you should just be aware of that. You may have damaged your chances somewhat by not making a move so make sure you are bold and decisive when you meet up.

Merkin

Arrange the coffee at a date and time that it could organically lead on to dinner and drinks if you are getting on well! So rather than meet up at lunchtime on a Tuesday, arrange the coffee for 3pm on a Saturday in town. Then hopefully if there is lots of flirting and banter you can suggest continuing on and catching a bite to eat/having a couple of drinks etc. She sounds keen tbh so don't over analyse this, organise the date for this weekend and see where it leads!

LegacyUser

I myself thought I damaged my chances the next day by not making a move and then telling her friends , I assume the chances are her friend who is a friend of mine too by the way has told her , however I contacted her the next day on FB and asked her how she was after the night and that I was also looking forward to my holiday in 2 weeks times , she said if she didn't see me before then have a brillant time but that perhaps we could meet up for coffee before I go , I asked her well what about next weekend , she told me she couldn't as she had specific plans but the asked if I was around the weekend after? I told her I was but was leaving that night but could meet her during the day , 2 weeks is a long time to wait though

heretochat

This is only my opinion but I would advise going off and enjoying your holiday and approaching this whole situation with a fresh mind afterwards.

LegacyUser

I'm actually going to go ahead and meet her for coffee, the very fact I told her friend at the very end of the night that I like her would suggest her friend has told her and if this is the case then the fact she has suggested we meet up for coffee on the day I leave for my holiday would suggest there is interest there on her part also, this wasn't just about last Saturday night, I have felt there's been a connection there for a while now but this is the first time we have been out in a social environment.

The problem is she no longer works where I work and it was actually her leaving night last sat and I'm thinking 2 weeks is a long time to pass for an arranged date/meet up

I might message or text her at the end of the week or after this weekend to see how she is and if that coffee is still a go

Matteroffact

I also think that two weeks is a long time before you meet her. Your friend definitely told her, you can be sure of that. You didn't mess up anything at the going away party. If she is interested she wouldn't just lose interest over that. Ask her can you meet up before the actual day you are leaving, e.g. two days before. Tell her that the day you are going away will be too busy for you as you have to pack etc.

LegacyUser

OP here, ok the date this weekend is a go, and instead of coffee its drinks and perhaps some food.

Haven't been out on a date in years, bit nervous. Any advice, I suppose the worst thing is the fear of running out of things to say

Matteroffact

The best thing you can do is not to over think this. Just meet her as if she was a friend. Don't try to impress her, just be your good self. Remember you are going on holidays, so you have something to look forward to.

SingItOut

Coming from a girl, the advice i will give you is dress well, not overly dressed but something you put effort into. Being nervous is a good thing because it means you'll relax quicker once you both start chatting. It's also helpful that you both know each other so at least there will be some basis for conversation.