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legal harrassment?

  • 08-11-2013 8:01pm
    #1
    purehoor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 82 ✭✭


    Hi all
    My girlfriend is being harrassed by her ex. He is doing all this it seems legally.He has reported her to social services for mistreatment of her children. Made allegations she was beating them not looking after them etc...He hangs around outside the house when picking up the kids for about 5 minutes and does the same when dropping them off. He sits around the small town which he lives 20 mins from watching her every move.
    He also reported her to social welfare for false claiming and said i was living with her which was investigated and seen that he was just stirring. This lad has assaulted me(court case pending) and is really getting out of control. She has been to gardai and they say there is nothing can be done even tho she said she feels threatened. He has also text her one day saying enjoy your walk when she was out for one in a forest and he was supposidly at work. This forest is 30 mins form his home and work place.
    She had a protection order on him before but dropped it to try ease tensions but things have just gotten worse. She is a full time carer to one of their special needs children and has reported her to the Team around the child for mistreatment. They investigated and reported back to him they were happy that she was doing an amazing job and that the children were very lucky to have her. He was not happy with this so made complaints to the HSE about this.
    He seems to be losing complete control lately. She is getting very anxious about his more and more errattic behaviour of late. Any advice? She is going back to get the protection order again next week. My suggestions are not being considered as they are not deemed appropriate:rolleyes:. Any advice on this scourge?


Comments

  • #2
    Bepolite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,737 ✭✭✭Bepolite


    I would recommend editing your post as to include paragraphs, remove the text speak and use capital letters after fullstops. It makes things much easier to read.

    If you're not getting any joy with your local gardai then ask to speak to the superintendent. The guards should be taking a report at least and following this up. That said I can understand their reluctance to get involved in this sort of thing. Take copies of the texts etc. along and take your time in filling things out so they don't look like the post you've made.

    Beyond that stay out of it as much as possible, you are completely separate to the family they have established together and like it or not there is significant baggage there your partner needs to deal with. It's fine to support her but not to meddle in her decisions in regards to her ex-partner and her children.

    Yet more people who could have done with a stint watching Judge Judy.


  • #3
    purehoor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 82 ✭✭purehoor


    How can I stay out of this as Im involved in most of the complaints? Will try going to the super but the gardai dont seem to want to be involved at all. Hope my post is easier to read now


  • #4
    Bepolite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,737 ✭✭✭Bepolite


    purehoor wrote: »
    How can I stay out of this as Im involved in most of the complaints? Will try going to the super but the gardai dont seem to want to be involved at all. Hope my post is easier to read now

    If you put a line in after each paragraph it would help. Sorry to be pedantic about these things, it never bothered me until I started to study law and then the sheer volume of things I have to read changed my mind. (I've finished this anecdote and I'm moving on to something else now so end of paragraph note the blank line.)

    I would stay out of it by removing yourself from the complaints. If you wish to pursue the assault thats fair enough but that doesn't involve any contact with the other party outside of court. I'm not trying to be funny but if you're aggravating the situation the guards are much less inclined to get involved. If you're involved in most of the complaints then there is something a miss here.


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