Met a guy...advice needed

marykitty47

So I was looking for some advice really. Met a lovely guy Sat night and he stayed over now nothing happened we just kissed but got on so so well. He didn't want to leave on Sunday but I really had to go as I had a family dinner. He asked for my number and text me Monday morning. We were texting back and fourth all day until Monday night. Nothing on Tues so decided to text him on Wed, he was texting me back and fourth all day Wed then he text me again Thurs morning. Few texts back and fourth Thursday morning....but now I haven't heard a peep since.

I'm so out of the loop with all of this it has been that long. Shall I text him today or even tomorrow or do I wait for him to text now again. The last text I sent was kind of something to reply to

Taltos

OP - per our charter please do not start multiple threads here in a short space of time. It is viewed as attention whoring and all threads can be closed as a result.

Taltos

Virgil°

Stop pussyfooting around with this texting game and ask to meet him again.

Esoteric_

So he's texted you a hell of a lot, almost every day, and you're worried?!

Ask him out!

marykitty47

Esoteric_ wrote: »

So he's texted you a hell of a lot, almost every day, and you're worried?!

Ask him out!

I guess im old fashioned and waiting for him to do it. I don't no if I should text him again though because the last text I sent yesterday was one to reply to..but haven't heard anything since

Not showing any interest doesnt come across old fashioned, it comes across as not interested and possibly too much effort
Ask him out

Meauldsegosha

marykitty47 wrote: »

I guess im old fashioned and waiting for him to do it. I don't no if I should text him again though because the last text I sent yesterday was one to reply to..but haven't heard anything since

You're too old fashioned to ask him out but you asked him back to yours the first night you met?? Really OP that makes no sense at all. Just ask him out or write it off.

marykitty47

I just text him now to see how he is etc...somehow I don't think he is going to reply :-(

Virgil°

marykitty47 wrote: »

I just text him now to see how he is etc...somehow I don't think he is going to reply :-(

And if he replies then you're no further on than you are now. You should have asked him to meet you. At least then you'd know if he ever wants to meet again or not.

Stavro Mueller

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

You're too old fashioned to ask him out but you asked him back to yours the first night you met?? Really OP that makes no sense at all. Just ask him out or write it off.

^^ This. What are you afraid of? Just ring him and ask him out. What have you got to lose? If he's interested then problem solved and you don't have to keep posting on this thread about texts that may mean this or that. If he fobs you off or whatever then you know what the story is and you can delete his number. Honestly, some times the gameplaying that people get up to can be utterly headwrecking.

heretochat

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

You're too old fashioned to ask him out but you asked him back to yours the first night you met?? Really OP that makes no sense at all. Just ask him out or write it off.

This confused me too I have to admit. If you like the guy just cut out all the texting nonsense and ask him out. The day is gone where guys should be the only ones capable of having the courage to do so.. He is probably sitting somewhere wondering the exact same thing.

Stavro Mueller

heretochat wrote: »

This confused me too I have to admit. If you like the guy just cut out all the texting nonsense and ask him out. The day is gone where guys should be the only ones capable of having the courage to do so.. He is probably sitting somewhere wondering the exact same thing.

And perhaps the more you're texting, the more he thinks you're fobbing him off.

wirelessdude01

Texting generally doesn't get the answers for anyone. Ring the man and ask him does he want to go out and do something/anything. Either way you will know then rather than trying to decipher texts/meaning of texts.

Merkin

If I was receiving daily texts from someone I would have a royal pain in my arse quite frankly. Also, there really is no reason to panic because you haven't heard from him in less than twenty four hours.

Ask him if he wants to meet up this weekend rather than the volley of texts which isn't actually getting you anywhere, you'll soon know then whether he wants to see you or not again.

Matteroffact

He isn't bothered or he would text you back. The ball was in his court. My best advice would be to wait and let him contact you again. If he doesn't it means he is not interested. Plain and simple. You don't need to hear the words from his mouth. His way of telling you is by not texting you back.

marykitty47

He just asked would I like to meet sunday for a few drinks

heretochat

So what are you doing on here telling all of us? Just say you will meet him if that is what you want to do..

marykitty47

heretochat wrote: »

So what are you doing on here telling all of us? Just say you will meet him if that is what you want to do..

Less of the smart answers

Ande1975

marykitty47 wrote: »

He just asked would I like to meet sunday for a few drinks

Op,
I've read your other thread and you really need to develop some confidence.
Your self esteem is non existent and going to cause you a lot of bother if you don't step back and figure out a)what you want b)how you would like to be treated c)how you feel about yourself.
You spent a few years taking breadcrumbs from a guy who told you he wasn't interested. Put that behind you. Not all guys are like him.
Wipe the slate clean. Figure out how you want to be treated and accept nothing less. That also means not being a wallflower either. Be strong and confident.
You don't sound overly excited by the fact that this new guy wants to meet you.
Stop with the drama of the chase (that's what you are used to) and start realising its not healthy. You deserve a guy who treats you right, your worth is not dependent on convincing a guy to be with you. He should want to be with you and it shouldn't come as a surprise.
Stop with the negative thinking and game playing because you are only damaging yourself.
Good luck

BTW Heretochat wasn't giving a smart answer. My reading of your post is like I said above. You don't seem excited and you seem quite surprised. Again just my opinion

dellas1979

This is not aimed at you directly OP, but I hate these flamin threads on PI about fellas (some times girls, generally seems more guys though) texting/not texting/not texting enough/panicing when they dont text/elated when they do/does he like me/doesnt he like me. There has been a spaight of them.

Maybe there should be a sub-forum. So many of them. Or a sticky.

We dont know why people dont text. We dont know if someone likes ye or not.

Wouldnt it be more proactive, and self-esteem raising, and empowering to find out yourselves?

wirelessdude01

dellas1979 wrote: »

This is not aimed at you directly OP, but I hate these flamin threads on PI about fellas (some times girls, generally seems more guys though) texting/not texting/not texting enough/panicing when they dont text/elated when they do/does he like me/doesnt he like me. There has been a spaight of them.

Maybe there should be a sub-forum. So many of them. Or a sticky.

We dont know why people dont text. We dont know if someone likes ye or not.

Wouldnt it be more proactive, and self-esteem raising, and empowering to find out yourselves?

Harsh but true. Also would say for threads like what your on about for posters to not get on the defensive if someone posts something that they don't like or isn't actually 100% true. We can only reply based on the story as told and if they OP doesn't give the full story at the start then that can and does lead to 'issues' between posters due to them taking issue with responses and their tone.

Taltos

OK all - please limit your posts to the OPs question. This is not a discussion forum on these types of thread.

Will also not tolerate anymore backseat modding - if anyone has an issue with a post please report it. OP this also goes for you, if you cannot reply in a civil manner we will be forced to close this thread, as noted people can only reply with the information presented and while we ask them to do so in a civil manner you have to accept that on occasion you might not like what you read, but that does not excuse replies as above.

Thanks
Taltos

marykitty47

Well he asked where id like to go on sat. Said he would text the time on Sunday. When I didn't hear from him by 4pm I text to see. He didn't reply until 3pm today asking how I was. No explanation or nothing. I replied and haven't heard anything since

wirelessdude01

marykitty47 wrote: »

Well he asked where id like to go on sat. Said he would text the time on Sunday. When I didn't hear from him by 4pm I text to see. He didn't reply until 3pm today asking how I was. No explanation or nothing. I replied and haven't heard anything since

Adios amigo. Sounds like he has a few on the go at the same time and can't remember which one he is meant to be doing what with on which day of the week..

Meauldsegosha

marykitty47 wrote: »

Well he asked where id like to go on sat. Said he would text the time on Sunday. When I didn't hear from him by 4pm I text to see. He didn't reply until 3pm today asking how I was. No explanation or nothing. I replied and haven't heard anything since

Move on, you've given enough of your time to this guy.

heretochat

I in now way meant to be smart with my last response on this thread..

Having seen what has been posted since I would agree that he appears to be a bit of a flake.. Fitting you in around other things (and people perhaps)..

Time to forget about him and mark it down to experience I think

Merkin

marykitty47 wrote: »

Well he asked where id like to go on sat. Said he would text the time on Sunday. When I didn't hear from him by 4pm I text to see. He didn't reply until 3pm today asking how I was. No explanation or nothing. I replied and haven't heard anything since

Delete his number and forget about him, he's not interested.

Also, I don't know why you insisted on texting him every time you didn't hear from him, how damaging for your own self esteem and it makes you look overly keen to someone too.

Don't go texting him again either. Just leave this one.

wirelessdude01

Merkin wrote: »

Also, I don't know why you insisted on texting him every time you didn't hear from him, how damaging for your own self esteem and it makes you look overly keen to someone too.

Exactly. No wonder some of us men think we can get away with murder when ladies react like this to being treated like muck. Wake up OP and cut this one loose.

marykitty47

Got another text this morning apologising saying if I give him another chance he will be worth it. Is he actually serious?!!! Text deleted

Meauldsegosha

marykitty47 wrote: »

Got another text this morning apologising saying if I give him another chance he will be worth it. Is he actually serious?!!! Text deleted

I lol'ed at the part in bold. He certainly doesn't have confidence issues. You did the right thing deleting the text. Good luck.

marykitty47

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

I lol'ed at the part in bold. He certainly doesn't have confidence issues. You did the right thing deleting the text. Good luck.

I know is he actually serious. You weren't worth it first time..and you ain't worth it second time around. Some men!!!

3DataModem

marykitty47 wrote: »

I guess im old fashioned and waiting for him to do it. I don't no if I should text him again though because the last text I sent yesterday was one to reply to..but haven't heard anything since

Old fashioned? Since when does that include initiating texting several times a day.