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  • 08-11-2013 9:49am
    #1
    missyver
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 71 ✭✭


    Hi

    I have been trying to separate for past 6 months - going back and forth from my solicitor to his. We have drawn up an agreement between us now but the solicotors are still writing to one another, waiting for other to respond etc..

    I have a house that I am about to purchase but I have been advised not to purchase it until the separation has been agreed so I'm really worried I could lose sale of the house.

    Has anyone been in this situation before? I have even decided now to draw up my own legal document and hopefully this might push it forward quicker.

    This is a very painful process. Just looking for some advice please?


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  • #2
    wuzziwig
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 516 ✭✭✭wuzziwig


    I feel your pain Missyvery. I left my ex in March. We are nowhere near drawing up a separation agreement because my ex is the most unreasonable person on the planet. He won't agree to anything. If I agree to something he comes back asking for more. We're trying to sort out the house at the moment. I've offered a sum to buy him out, he's not accepting it and on it goes. We were supposed to meet at the courthouse with our solicitors last week. My solicitor had to put it off but said we would definitely meet his week. I'm still waiting to hear what day or if it's even going ahead. Everything grinds so slowly in the legal world. Talk to you solicitor about your fears of losing out on the house and hopefully they will be able to start moving things along.


  • #3
    backtobass
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 93 ✭✭backtobass


    missyver wrote: »
    Hi

    I have been trying to separate for past 6 months - going back and forth from my solicitor to his. We have drawn up an agreement between us now but the solicotors are still writing to one another, waiting for other to respond etc..

    I have a house that I am about to purchase but I have been advised not to purchase it until the separation has been agreed so I'm really worried I could lose sale of the house.

    Has anyone been in this situation before? I have even decided now to draw up my own legal document and hopefully this might push it forward quicker.

    This is a very painful process. Just looking for some advice please?

    You must draw a line in the sand mentally and tell your solicitor clearly you want to reach an agreement. You should not allow your solicitor to write letters to and fro that get you know further down the road. This only increases the solicitors fees and your stress. You will have to instruct your solicitor to go to court if an agreement is not reached in the short term. Trust me, letters toing and froing with swades of time waiting in between is not progress. That could go on for ever. You have to take the direct route, go to court if their are dilly dallying. Trust me, i have first hand experience of this, court is the only solution. You may get an agreement then in the court corridoors without going in to court for a judicial seperation. This agreement will then be made a court order. If either then default on the court order, it is contempt of court which can include commital to jail must faster then once upon a time in Ireland. Court is the only answer, go with your instinct.


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