A letter to my birth mother......

180567

I saw the movie "Philomena" at the weekend, and it got me thinking again about my own adoption and what I would wish I could say to my own birth mother. So I wrote this short letter to her, of what I wish I could say - and perhaps I can post it here......



I just wanted to say a very deep and sincere "Thank You" to you for
bringing me into the world and for giving me my life. I also wanted to
say how sorry I am that you suffered whatever difficulties and hardship
you went through during the months before and around my birth. I
cannot even imagine what it must have been like for you back in those
dark days but my heart goes out to you for what you went through. I
don't know the circumstances that brought me into the world, I can only
hope that the passing of the years has helped to heal whatever happened to you in the past.

I'd like you to know I grew up with a lovely kind and gentle couple
who treated me so well. My childhood was full of love and happiness.
Sadly they are both gone now RIP. I've had and am having a full and good life with its share of ups and downs like everyone else. I've travelled and seen the world and had loads of interesting experiences and have so
many good friends.

I've thought of you many times down through the years and on birthdays
and other times like Christmas I have often wondered if you are
somewhere out there thinking of me. I hope your life went well after
you had had me. I sometimes wonder if you married and had other
children. Above all I hope and pray you were, and are now happy and
at peace.

I don't know where you were from or even if you are still alive now.
I like to think maybe we have passed each other walking in a park or
along some canal bank sometime. I also like to think that maybe I
carry some of your personality and character in me - maybe we share a
love of certin types of music, times of the year and places and cities
and foods.

I respect your privacy and would never want to come into your life now
unless you wanted me to. But if you ever did want to get in contact
with me I would want you to know I am here for you and if you reach out
through the channels available to us you will find me.

I would love to have been able to say all this to you in person but
perhaps somehow you will get to read it someday and know it was meant
for you and what was in my heart.

Patrick (i think that is the name you had given me but I am not sure of that).

Hermy

That's a lovely letter 180567.
Thank you very much for sharing it.
It echoes a lot of my feelings about my own unknown past life.

survived

What a beautiful letter. I am blessed to be reunited with my daughter but had i not been so lucky i would have been honoured to read such a beautiful, thoughtful and considerate letter. Every good wish with your life and I truly hope some day you will be able to show your birth mum this letter in person it will mean so much to her.

schoolmouse

To read such a letter can only warm the hearts of the people who will read it, I am delighted for you in so far as you have had a happy life and I can only wish you the very best of everything for the future.

LennieB

That letter is just perfect...wish I had a sample like that before writing my first letter to my birthparents 8 years ago...it took me hours to draft that letter and eventually got it written - still have the photocopy at home (nowhere as good as your one though!). Best of luck.

kristannah

that's an awesome letter! Very sweet and kind and amazing

grey_so_what

What a lovely letter. You are a credit to your birth Mam and your Adopted Parents.

It was an honour to read such lovely truthful thoughts from the heart.

I wish you nothing but future happiness 180567.......

GSWxxx

Mazdoll

A most beautiful letter, I hope someday she will have the honour of meeting you..every best wish to you in your life xx